2006-12-16 02:51:38 · 21 answers · asked by happysantany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lusting and acting are 2 totally different evils. Lusting is human nature, but having the self-respect to remain faithful shows you are a true man, it's harder to do the morally correct thing. Is it possible that you truly love your wife and the fear of losing her would destroy you emotionally? A few hours of pleasure isn't worth a life time of memories. Talk to your wife, tell her you want some private excitement, go on a date with her, take her to a romantic moonlit walk, you may be surprised what it will bring out in her.
Just a final word, 2 years after my divorce, my ex finally admitted to me that all he was was curious to see if he could please another woman. We had been high school sweethearts, neither of us had been with anyone else.... I found out about the meeting he had arranged with another woman. That curiosity destroyed the trust, and some love I had for him, and once the trust is gone through infidelity, it almost never can be fully restored... I finally left after a year.
Good Luck ... you are the only one that can stop the destruction of your marriage. Do the right thing.
2006-12-16 04:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well because you are married and that is a commitment. Its not a mood swing, its for real and its the utmost disrespect to be unfaithful to your wife. A half hour of fun will be the big elephant in the room with you and your wife for eternity. Its not worth it, even if its the best half hour romp you've ever had in your life. You will re-live it in your head for a while but the shadow it casts on your daily life will haunt you forever, if you have a conscience, if you don't then you certainly are just being immoral. Unless you want to have an open marriage and your wife is on board with that, what's good for the goose is good for the gander kind of thing. If she's in agreement then you are fine. But there truly is no point in being in a marriage where there is lies. Its too much work and someone always gets hurt. The bottom line is, you can't act on impulse because someone will be hurt by those selfish actions. The same reason you can't go around killing someone every time you get mad at them. Acting on impulse can have life time consequences......
2006-12-16 11:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by JAQUELINE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can. Just like canines mosey up and hump each other, you certainly can. Try it at a subway platform sometime - just start dry humping an attractive woman while you wait for the train.
But impulse control and silverware are the only things separating us from the animals, my brother.
Plus you have to be prepared to live with the consequences.
If you still want to screw a bunch of chicks, first have the g*ddamned decency to get divorced. Then tag every willing beaver in sight.
2006-12-16 13:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know lust is a form of cheating? And anyway you would be a pig if act on your lustful thoughts, you should never have gotten married, it's people like you is why the divorce rate is high and still climbing,,,up,up,up, grow up and put shades on if you are that childish.
2006-12-16 11:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship with your wife is over Tell her before you act on anything....were all human and feel for others but if it's just lust it will pass.
2006-12-16 11:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by deadshscott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok if you lust for other women, just dont act on it. You might wake up the next day with divorce papers
2006-12-16 10:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only human. I think that it happens to all people. Find a hobby or something. Do things for your wife when you think about these other women.Think of your wife, she probably lust too.
2006-12-16 10:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't realize how hard it is to be faithful. Married men see beautiful women everday. We have to kill our flesh daily all for the sake of our marriages. This makes it even harder when our wives are self-absorbed, don't take care of themselves and don't appreciate the sacrifice a man makes- all for the sake of just doing the right thing.
2006-12-16 11:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because of your marriage vows..
Unless of course you are a dishonerable man of little character
then you cam simply ignore your vows and go ahead with your impulse.
2006-12-16 11:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be lusting for other women, if you are then you dont truly love your wife. do your wife a favor and set her free to be w/ someone who deserves her, loves and respects her. if you cheat on her in your heart and mind nothing will stop you from cheating on her physically.
2006-12-16 10:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋