Should I break up with my fiance because he is 'tired of being with me' and always w/ male friends?

Question

My fiance has been remodeling this guys house for five months, spends every free minute there to the point where I don't even feel like I am in a relationship anymore. (AND he is working for FREE.)I feel single again. We don''t even talk any further than 'Are you eating at his house tonight? ok.' When I ask to go do somethng with him he gets annoyed and says no I have to finish his house and I am being a friend and I want to get it done. I am only asking for 1 -2 night s a week or one day a week! I know it's not another woman - he is really at his male friend's house. A mutual friend saw I wasn't happy and asked him why he doesn't do something about it. His answer -'I am tired and need time doing other things away from her' or something like that. A) Why are we engaged if he's 'tired of me'? B) Should I break it off? C) Is there something I csan do to salvage this wrecked relationship? (The sex is also almost non-existent and when we do, it is all about his pleasure only.)

Answer 1

I don't want to sound mean but you aren't even married yet and he's already tired of you? I think it would be easier to break it off now than go through a divorce later. He sounds like a self centered jerk to me.

Answer 2

I hate to say it, but I think your partner is using this "project" as a means of backing away from the relationship. Aside from that opinion, and to answer your questions, I would say that (A) you are still engaged because he does not have the courage and/or tact to tell you how he truly feels; (B) if the verbal abuse and neglect persists, then yes, I do believe that you should break it off; (C) there is plenty that the TWO of you could do to salvage the relationship but, noting that I used the word "TWO", both of you would have to work at it. Relationships are bonds shared by two (or more) people and regardless of the situation or circumstance, require that all parties involved work to keep it a healthy and loving union. In other words, stop all of the "what-did-I-do" talk and tell the man what your emotional needs are and where you would like for the relationship to go. Hopefully, he will do the same. If not however, I think you will figure out just what his intentions regarding the relationship really are...

Answer 3

I would make yourself happy and take a class you have always wanted to take: art, language, dancing, music yoga.....try something new.....and in classes I almost always meet new friends. Or if you do not have the money for classes....then maybe volunteer once to twice a week....and meet people that way. Doing social things will make you happier. Your life should be fulfilling outside of your relationship.
Your partner will likely be reinvigorated if you are happier, active and less needy. But if not and it ends then you have a social network which makes it not such a big deal.

Answer 4

Maybe he is dealing with who he is. Could he be gay and using you as a cover up.? It happens. By the way it don't sound like he is right man for you. Suck it up and find someone who will care as much for you as they do themselves. After all , it is a 50/50 deal. Good luck.

Answer 5

he spilled the beans .. HE is tired of you.. simple yet clear..

its YOU who wld decide whatever we say here ,
if most of the answer is break up with him , if you would like to stay with him , it wldnt matter at all no matter how many people will tell you.

Why not try to make a trial , he ll chase you if he wants you to stay with him , no bts no ifs.
Lets not make things complicated. do yourself a favor. you know what to do so do it. GOODLUCK

Answer 6

It's obvious he's just not that into you anymore. Go ahead and get rid of him now, because all it's going to get is worse. You'll feel much better once you move on and get over him. Let him go.

Answer 7

Ditto on what Benandgavinsmommy said! Better now than later.