She has low self esteem, insecure and constantly in need of love assurance. When I'm not in the mood for sex, do not hug her, do not give her a kiss, do not tell her that I love her (well, I'm just not the romantic kind of man), she'll assume that I don't love/need her and won't speak to me whole day. When things are over, she realizes her problem, but every now and then it repeats. HELP!! What could we do to improve the situation? Thanks!
2006-12-16 02:43:46 · 16 answers · asked by panic-over-nothin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're just going to have to give her constant reassurance... Do something romantic for her to show her how much she means to you, and tell her that just because you're not always saying it it doesn't mean you don't always love her.
2006-12-16 02:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has a fear of being abandoned by u. I don't know if she got this fear from your relationship or a past one, but she definitely has it. She needs to build her "self-worth" and self esteem because living like that for her is awful, believe me I have experienced it in the past. As far as your part in it take the time to say " I love u", make sure u comment on how beautiful u think she is, she really needs to feel wanted at those times. Never threaten a split, or say things like "I don't know if I can do this anymore", or " This marriage isn't working", those types of phrases will make her much worse. There are things she will have to do also to make herself feel worthy of love and to know u won't leave her because she isn't good enough. Counselling is an option, and simple things like a new hairstyle, or some sexy lingerie, or working out can build her self esteem also. Please be patient with her, insecurity is a very hard emotion for someone to deal with. Remember this is your wife and she should feel treasured by u and loved. I wish u both the best.
2006-12-16 02:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she might need to talk to someone about her low self-esteem and insecurity. She can get help for it so that she can be a stronger person. Maybe she just can't control acting the way she does when she gets down like that.
2006-12-16 02:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you love her every day! It takes so little effort on your part...
After 27 years of marriage, I "still" tell my Wife every day that I love her!!! And, I love her more every day and appreciate her more also!
Get with it bud, or, your liable to find that she has strayed to some one else who will give her the "attention" that she is craving...and I feel sorry for the both of you if she does.
After awhile, (a few years), she will feel secure enough not to need this, but, until she does, give her all the love that she needs and attention to detail...(It will help your marriage in the long run)...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-16 02:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her couples dancing lessons for the holidays and tell her she is beautiful frequently when dancing together. Encourage her to get girl friends and/or try dating with other people occasionally to help her expand her social network and improve her self esteem. Finally realise that women are more moody than men if she realises that night she has been moody..... you tell her you love her and that it is normal to sometimes be moody. That should help
2006-12-16 02:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by mandolinatou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs a puppy or a kitten to show her emotions to Someone who won't talk back to her , judge her and who will just be company. Stroking an animal has a soothing effect on people and might be just the right thing for her.
Surprise her and bring one home... You might get a solution to this problem of yours....You have nothing to lose..
2006-12-16 02:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her to a make over!! Make her feel beautiful encourage her to dress up and doll herself up. Be spontaneous with her take her away for a romantic evening or weekend. Trust me if you doll yourself up it shoots your esteem through the roof!!
2006-12-16 02:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prove to her that you love her. Do something romantic for her. Hate to say it but you should have thought about that b4 you married.
2006-12-16 02:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back in time, date her more than 5 minutes, decide to let her go and move on to a healthy relationship.
2006-12-16 02:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure she knows u love her. and hug her all the time if u don't want sex. girls need it.
2006-12-16 02:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋