Our divorce isn't over yet.we go to court in january.He's telling me he still loves me and want joint custody of the kids but I don't want that.On Monday, I will send a copy to my lawyer.Is that harrassment?I feel that is b/c we are supposed to communicate through our lawyers now.He also started a request on paper that's signed by our attns. that starting this month, he would have visitation every other weekened.I agreed but this weekend was supposed to be his and he didn't come to pick them up.I waited for them just in case and gave them 30 mins.I will also tell this to my attn.He started this, why he isn't following it?Plus my attn said that on Thurs she received a request for visitation for Dec 22-29th.we both laughed and said hell no b/c I want my kids to wake up with me on Christmas.It's been 2 yrs with no childsupport.It's his mom who is pushing the divorce.I was workN on getN the divorce but they filed 4 days b4 me.they have money & i had 2 wait 4 a process b/c i had no money...
2006-12-16 02:39:47 · 6 answers · asked by angelic1302 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not selfish and I always have done the best for my kids.He was abusive in everywhich way to me.I always made him happy and kept taking the things he kept dishing out. Not only he would be abusive physically, mentally, and financially but he cheated on me with plenty women. My kids didn't deserve to be around him. The last straw is when he lost his job b/c he was messing with chicks instead of going to work and I went to jail for something that he did and lied to me about and it fell on me. I've been having the same job since I've been here with no help from him. Both the kids were on diapers and plus I have to pay day care. I don't want my kids to grow up being like him and he never really asked me to be with the kids until his mother paid for a lawyer. I let them go but I'm being too nice. I was nice b4 but then I ended up going back to him everytime. Not anymore! I had to set some rules and stick by them for the sake of me and the kids.
2006-12-16 03:53:36 · update #1
He pays no child support, agrees to see the kids and never shows up and is writing letters expressing how he wants joint custody and he does whatever his mother says. You have a attorney, let your attorney handle him.
2006-12-16 03:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well just go thru with the divorce all he is trying to do is stall. KNowing that now you have him by the excuse my language balls. His Mom outh to be ashamed of herself for meddling where her nose doesn't belong. But when you go to court demand they pay all teh back child sipport payments as soon as the divorce is over. ANd tell your lawyer to not hold back and give it to him hard. Also if it was his weekend with the kids why didn't he pick them up. ANd tell your lawyer that you will keep the children ion Christmas. ANd give them what you can because what you give you kids is from the love you ahve for them, what they give them is just to show off beofre the court date. Also the letter isn't harassment it's just a plea for stalling. He knows once the divorce is fanal it's a whole different ball game with him on the outside. SO good luck.
2006-12-16 10:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its sad that you take everything to your lawyer. Your husband wrote you a letter saying he still loves you....and your lawyer needs to see that why?
You laugh because he wants to see his kids at christmas time?
You sound a little heartless. I sympathyse with the no child support, thats obviously not right either, but who really care who filed for the divorce first. Sounds like you are trying to make it hard on him.
Visitation every other weekend? So he gets to see his kids 4 days a month!! As a kid, I would have wanted to see my dad a lot more than that! Put your pride aside and do what's best for your kids....not your ego.....and stop running to your lawyer for everything
2006-12-16 10:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your hubby is trying to keep some line of communication open. it is sad when lawyers make the divorce that much harder. they want communication through them so they can bill each contact with the other lawyer to his/her client. try to be civil with hubby so kids do not feel like a fulcrum of a teeter-totter.
2006-12-16 10:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that he is trying to keep you on your toes, keep you guessing etc. Just forget about it all and ignore the letters. Take the kids with you and move on with your life. He is trying to confuse you and frustrate you.
Good luck with your new beginning
2006-12-16 11:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand that it's too late to communicate with you without attorneys present.
2006-12-16 10:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋