I found out my husband and a woman from our church were quietly establishing a relationship, mostly having long conversations behind my back. (her husband left her with 3 kids for her friend, you'd think she knew better from a female's standpoint) I called her when I heard a VM and she was pretty shocked but she did talk to me and say they were friends. I was very nice but firm in what I had to say about the situation and I told her I didn't want her talking to my husband anymore and that I was on my way to confront him also since I know I really need to hold him responsible. He tried to say the same thing, but her message was too flirty for me to believe that. I heard later that a few people from our church saw them talking a few times. After my convo with her she called and left another message saying she was "out" and that she was going to repsect my wishes. Neither of them know I heard any of the messages. Do you think things stopped, or just slowed down?
2006-12-16 02:23:28 · 12 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guess you will just have to wait and find out...good luck
2006-12-16 02:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's a 3rd option: maybe they haven't stopped... maybe they just got better at keeping it secret....
And you're right. She's not the problem. It's the husband... your husband that's the problem. Anyhow, you can tell the other woman not to speak with your husband all you want.... but if he wants to dip his cookie in someone else's cookie jar, he'll find someone ready and willing.....
As for her knowing better from a woman's point of view, she's kinda on the rebound isn't she....? So I guess she's not thinking straight either.
I really feel sorry for you. It's really terrible to not trust the person you are with.... been there, done that... won't ever do it again!
2006-12-16 10:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Things often start innocent. He may feel like he is helping her, etc. But when they start sneaking to talk, the innocense is over. My guess is they are at a cross road. They will either wake up and go separate ways and things will heat up.
If they "end" it, there are often the farewell conversations that confess feelings that haven't been expressed and often take things to the next level.
2006-12-16 10:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
It's a shame.
What made it worse was "woman from our CHURCH." Yeah, very religious of you to talk behind someones back and such.
But, seriously, just keep an eye out. And if you think something is weird. Confront him. He's your husband, and he shouldn't be doing things behind your back.
Hopefully my advice (If there was any) helped.
Good luck, and just stay positive.
2006-12-16 10:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by emcintaggart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You over reacted, let him give her a little until she finds someone new, let her join in with the two of you. Show the women a little love, just lost her hubby and kid's, and now you and your husband. Poor thing.
2006-12-16 10:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confrontation probably just threw a wrench in their arrangement. I would be very wary of the whole thing. Keep your eyes and ears open. Your husband seems to be oblivious to how inappropriate his actions are. If they are "friends" - chances are, they'll just be more careful.
2006-12-16 10:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
may be they got 2 know u know everything and tried to hide things frm u ! go get a detective! and be preapared for everytype of conditions! u r a sweet lady and dont deserve cheaters! if this woman gone , maybe sum other . keep an eye on him
2006-12-16 10:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by dia a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think they stopped, since they don't know you heard the messages. or more likely, she wanted to stop but he's going to convince her not to. i have respect for her though because she said she was going to respect your wishes. that is very responsible. unless she just said it and she really doesn't mean to.
2006-12-16 10:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have stopped, but I doubt it will be forever, he is looking..... watch him and don't trust it.
Let me say, you handled it well! Congrats! A true lady!
2006-12-16 10:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
slowed
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2006-12-16 10:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋