We were once very friendly and were very close now the only time I hear from or interact with this indvidual is when they need or want someting. I tried on several occasons to reestablish the connection am I wasting my time?
2006-12-16 02:20:24 · 11 answers · asked by David O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dude you have to go half and wait for the individual if they don't come around then screw um'. It might be a waste of time. But you are the only one who can say whether or not it is.
2006-12-16 02:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by sf_wicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a difference of opinion is normal. You should be able to respect other people's choices. You don't always have to agree with each other, or one person doesn't always have to be right. There are many shades of colours and many ways of looking at things.
I think if the effort is not two-sided , then there is no relationship friendship or otherwise...It has to be give and take , not just take....I would not waste any more time here..
This person obviously wants to rule and be right all the time... that is not reality... and this person lacks respect for other's opinions.
Next time they call for something, tell them you are not able to help them.. simple easy, truthful... no explanations needed. Even if they whine.... you must be strong and turn around and walk the other way.. By giving in you would be enabling them to continue this behaviour with you......Cut it off, now.....say no....and do not apologize for your response......end the dialogue.....good bye...
2006-12-16 10:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may have differences with work matters but, U should not have personal deferences, otherwise, things can go nasty and ugly. Both of U should always think of the benefit U derive from your deferences. Without any differences, either U or your co-worker will have the impression of I am always right " Mr. Perfect ."
If U think that U are unable to tolerate it any longer, then either one of U have to give in to agree with an issue, otherwise, it will never end as long as both of U are still seeing each other.
2006-12-16 10:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean how is your coworker going to get mad cause you all have a difference of opinion? That is why we are all unique cause we have a different way of doing things. Don't beg and plead with her. I would probably go to her one more time and tell her that we all or opinionated, I have my and you have yours, I think that it is very immature to get mad about our indifference's. If she is still mad then I would just forget about having that friendly relationship with her because it is her who suffers with ignorance.
2006-12-16 10:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off.. learn how to spell 'occasions' and 'establish'.
And people have there opinions on things. And if that ruins the relationship. Whoop dee doo!
Just keep trying and maybe they'll open there eyes and see you were just voicing your opinion.
But, good luck. And hope you resolve it somehow!
2006-12-16 10:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by emcintaggart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the difference?
Honestly, you're probably better off not getting into friendships with coworkers... This is exactly why, you have an argument/fight on your own time and it carries in to the workplace.
2006-12-16 10:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to agree to disagree on the subject and move forward from there. If this is a friend worth keeping it would be worth a compromise, don't you think?
2006-12-16 10:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he/she will talk to you only when he/she wants something? That is when I would ignore the person. If you give this person an opportunity to use you, well then, it becomes YOUR fault. If the person insists on acting so very childish, just let it go.
2006-12-16 10:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes. Is this the only friend you have? Concentrate on the true friendhships and let this one go.
2006-12-16 10:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's obvious this person isn't on the same page as you anymore. If you were that committed to rekindling your friendship, I'd say it's their lost not yours. move on.
2006-12-16 10:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by wildblackflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋