However 2 nights ago when I was with my new girlfriend she called me. I asked if I could call her back on friday (yesterday) she said fine. 3 hours later I get a series of very pissed off txt messages saying that I blow her off when I get a gf. Says I have no time for her because I'm either with a gf or I'm with other friends.
Facts: She is married. She lives 60 miles from me. She has a somewhat possessive husband who didn't even like the fact I was friends with her.
My question: Am I in the right in being able to be with my new gf for 3 days without talking much to my married ex? Or is she right in saying I'm not being true to the friendship? Or should there have never been a friendship?
2006-12-16 02:04:49 · 13 answers · asked by James U 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it is always difficult to maintain a friendship with an ex,,,, and an ex or any friend shouldnt get angry if you are busy for a little while, especially with a girlfriend,,,,,, i would say its best to end the close friendship,,,, remain friendly if you happen to encounter each other, but dont make an effort to stay in contact
2006-12-16 02:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be wise to break things off with your ex permanently. If her husband has a problem with you guys being friends then the friendship is over. When you get married one of the stipulations at the ceremony say that when you agree to join together with the other person you also agree to foresake all others. Under the rules of marriage her husband is well within his rights to be "posessive" because that is HIS wife. Not just some woman he shares the bed with and then shares with other men.
Having said that, there is no way to be "true" to the friendship. There should no longer be a friendship. She moved on and so did you. If your paths happen to cross again at some point in life, great- other than that you both really have very little time for each other because you are both in separate relationships now.
2006-12-16 02:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your ex can be excited and happy for you that you have found the right woman for you, then you will know she really has moved on in her mind to the totally friendship relationship and out of the romantic relationship. I have got to that point with my ex. We had to end it. We did not want to. But her father wanted us to end it. It is a very complex situation. Neither she nor I ever did anything to hurt the other. We dated for 5 years. Anyway I will be more careful when a woman will keep putting off meeting her family. That was okay that that happened. She did nothing wrong. But that should be the rule. Your ex should be excited about your new life. And that is the true love of friendship!!!
2006-12-16 02:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're insecure. Now, i'm not declaring that as a putdown..that's basically why. As time is going on, with somewhat of luck, you'll experience extra take care of on your courting. If he's almost been engaged to the previous 2 girlfriends, you need to ask your self why and perchance that's why you experience insecure. possibly he will dump you too? i have had 2 boyfriends who married the very next female friend. i wager i'm insecure too, because I continually wondered, what replaced into incorrect with me? possibly that's basically lack of closure (they basically stopped calling). Given between the ex-bfs called some weeks in the past, possibly i will locate out. i trust that's because i did not have sex with them and the subsequent GF replaced into person-friendly.
2016-11-30 20:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by plyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the right with giving your current girlfriend priority; she is married and her husband should be her priority. If you have been intimate with a person, while they may have been an important part of your life at some point, to try to keep a "friendship" going after the fires have cools is only a pre-cursor to hoping sparks will fly again. The sparks are flying because she is not the center of your universe anymore.
2006-12-16 02:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James, It sounds like your married Ex is jealous. She cant stand the fact that you have moved on and are doing great. I can understand why you want to remain friends with her, as you sound like a really friendly guy who doesnt want to hurt anyone. However, you also need to think about your current GF, and how she feels about you recieving angry texts from your ex.. to some women that would look like you were cheating on her. I would be upfront with your current GF about what is going on, and tell your ex that she needs to concentrate more on her marriage. It doesnt sound like she can do the right thing as far as respecting your boundries when it comes to your current GF.
2006-12-16 02:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is getting jealous whenever you have a new gf. She needs to stop being a hypocrite. She has got married and continued with her life, but doesn't want you to! You have the right to follow your own path in life.
2006-12-16 02:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're on the right track.you've been doing very good with making friends with an ex, not to mention that you've been maintaining it for 3yrs now..you're just being true to yourself, and giving yourself a favor inreturn..just ignore her, she's may just be jealous..she doesn't get enough attention she wants from her new husband like what she's getting from you..give yourself a break.. just don't listen to her..it's not that important after all..
2006-12-16 02:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Luisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about being manipulated do you like? Do you get enough out of the "friendship" to compensate for the pain? Doesn't sound as though you do from your description.
2006-12-16 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you been trying to maintain a relationship with EX ??
Stop talking to EX..
Stay away from EX..
2006-12-16 02:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋