why do men cheat???

Question

Why cheat, why not just be honest??? It's not the sex cause I give it whenever and however he wants it. I'm the only one who's stuck by him through all his down-falls. When we do split up he always comes back to ME. If he loves me as much as he says he does, why lie and cheat and mess a good thing up?? So I guess my real question is, why would a guy cheat and possibly mess a good thing up, something that won't come around twice??

Answer 1

would you get sick of the same meals everyday for the rest of your life?

Answer 2

Men cheat because they are different than women. Think of it this way: If you have a fight with your guy, you don't really want to have sex soon after. But he's ready and willing. This is how I see it:

Guys emotions are like a chest of drawers. One drawer for work, another for play, another for sex, another for anger, etc
When they have a fight, once it's over, they close that drawer and are ready to open another. Like the sex drawer.

Women are more like a closet, with everything mixed up together inside. It's hard to separate the stuff so when you have a fight, it's almost impossible to have sex after (unless of course you've made up...)

But I just read your question again and it appears quite simple. He does it because he knows you'll always be there for him. You put up with it. That's why he always comes back to you. So get over it.

I have a question for you: Why do some women take back a guy that cheats on them??? It's not the second time that he cheats that's the hardest.... it's the first. So if he's done it once, he'll do it again....and again....and again... So... why do women put up with guys like that when there are lots of honest guys that care??????????

Answer 3

Because men have been socialized to think that is what they are entitled to do. I have dumped every man who ever cheated on me the minute I found out because they cannot have my best interest at heart when they go screw some other broad who may have who knows what. I'm keeping my house clean if you know what I mean.
As one who used to cheat a long time ago, I did it because my man was always accusing me anyway so I figured I'd give him a reason to feel that way.

Answer 4

Statistics say that most men cheat with someone who "strokes their ego". It's all about how the person makes them feel about themselves...you know we men have very sensitive egos...LOL However, I don't think that's a good reason to cheat. You have to decide for yourself if you are going to continue to put up with thisa behaviour. Do what is best for you. Other guys will come along.

Answer 5

You're over generalizing. Being single is great because it gives you the opportunity to pick and choose the people you like to hang around. In your case, you'd be better off cutting him loose and finding someone else suited to your personality and interests. Be also willing to take a good long look at yourself, develop your self esteem and be willing to discover why men like this might keep entering your life. Good luck.

Answer 6

He doesn't love you.He only likes you because you willingly give him *** any time he wants it and that's the reason for his coming back to beg you.I think you better look for love else where, somebody that will like you not because of what you can give but somebody that will always be there for you. Mind you anybody that continuously cheat on you doesn't like you.

Answer 7

Sounds like were in the same spot! My husband use to be the same why god forbid he still may be but i dont think soo...i think its power! They can prove they can have other women and not just one and the fear of commentment..but hey im not a guy but thats kinda what i figured out o and he knows if it happens again his *** aint comin back this time ill forgive once cause thats him but the seond time its mine and im not being played for a fool so explain you do it again i will not take you back because i will not be played for a fool there are plenty of fish in the sea that wont treat you like that and women/men dont deserve to be treated that way!

Answer 8

You never realize what you have until it's gone.

Either something he is looking for is still missing from your relationship, or he is just not the type to be monogamous. You have to figure out which it is and act appropriately for what you want out of your life.

And don't be so hard on men, statisically, women cheat just as much as men do.l

Answer 9

The more important question is why do you put up with it???? Do you think so little of yourself that you find this an acceptable way to live your life? Not all men cheat.....the ones that do are jerks....and they will continue as long as it is allowed....move on....

Answer 10

Here's what I found...
Summary:
•To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
•To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
•To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
•To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.

Answer 11

Sometimes we are just dumb.
Cheating can seem so easy, but we know that it is wrong.
It is not that we love the other girl more, or aren't getting as much sex as we would like, she has just got that new exciting feeling.
I am sorry to tell you but this is the answer,
he does not love you enough to fear losing you.
Sorry. x