help me im only 14 and pregnant 3monthes and i dont know what to do but i do know abortion and adoption is no option
2006-12-16 02:00:27 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Before you rule out the other options, there are a few things that you need to consider.
You are fourteen. FOURTEEN. When I was your age, I was leading in choir and drama team, preparing for dances, and having crushes on boys. I was not, however sleeping with them, because, even then, I knew that I was not adult enough to be able to handle the consequences.
Just remember, before you make your decision, that you still have dances to go to, movies to attend with your girlfriends, college, school trips, parties (LOTS of parties), and other things that gals your age should be enjoying.
I am not for abortion, myself, but you need to let your health practitioner decide if that really would be the best choice. If he or she tells you that you will be okay throughout the pregnancy, though, I would seriously consider an open adoption.
Sweetheart, you're not even old enough to work, and while you may love your baby when he or she is born, you're not going to want to be tied down to that responsibility at your age. That doesn't mean, though, that you can't see your baby if you give him or her up for adoption. Someone else out there can give that baby a better life than you can, and you can have other children somewhere down the road.
It is your choice, though. I just hope that you consider all of your options, and make the best choice. Being fourteen and having to raise a baby is no life to live, and it's not fair to your parents, either.
2006-12-16 02:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you made your bed and now you must lie in it....If you don't want a child look up adoption. Adoption is always an option in anyones book. There are plenty of couples out there that are willing to recieve a child and love them as if they made them. I am so agaist abortions so I wouldn't even give that option. Granted it is an option, but don't you think that your child deserves more than death?? You are too far a long now for an abortion anyways!! It is to be done with in your first twelve weeks of pregnancy. I really suggest that if you aren't wanting to care for this child that you turn to adoption.
www.bethany.org
this is a christian adoption agency
www.americanadoptions.com
These are some website you can look up
If you chose to keep your child are you truely sure that you are emotional ready to be a mother??? I am not trying to talk you out of it by all means but I just want you to weigh the pros and cons on all the decisions you make. You are only 14 what could you possibly offer a child if you quit school?? There aren't many jobs out there for a 14 year old whom is pregnant...Good luck to you in whatever you chose to do!!
2006-12-16 02:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if abortion is no option for you, then the best advice I can give is to tell your parents and start seeing a doctor. I am sure you are scared to tell your parents being that you are only 14 years old, however, they most likely won't get mad- they will be shocked. They won't disown you or anything like that, if anything they would be the best support for you. Ofcourse parent want their children- regardless of age- to come to them if there is a crisis.
If you are scared about becoming a parent at such a young age, then you could always consider adopting. Sending the baby for adoption after the birth might be the best thing for you because you could finish your childhood and schooling while also giving your child a chance at having two parents that want & are ready for a baby but cannot concieve.
2006-12-16 02:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by prettyaspnk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Here are your choices. 1) Abortion 2) adoption 3) ahve the baby. Sicne option 1 & 2 are out that leaves you with one option. Have you told oyur parents? If not you need to. You also need to see a doctor. Talk to your guidence Counselor at school or go to a planned parent hood office to see what other options you may have. If you cannot afford to take care of hte baby there are options of "Open Adoption" Where the Mother gives the child up for adoption but the mother of the child is still in the childs life. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 02:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well i got pregnant at 15 and had my daughter on my 16th birthday.it's gonna be hard thats no doubt but i promise you it is all worth it in the end.there is no happier moment in a persons life then when they place your baby on your chest for the first time.God knew you could handle it and thats why he gave you this gift.all i can tell you is do your best regardless of what ignorant people say.there is always gonna be someone talking crap.just keep your head high and stay positive.i have 2 girls and im only 18.i dont regret any.if you like you could email me if you have questions or something!!!! maribelm2005@yahoo.com good luck!!are you with the father? waht did your mom say
2006-12-16 06:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then the only option you have is to keep it and raise a beautiful baby.
If you do decide that adoption is best then try to find a family that would be willing to let you be in the child's life.
Best of luck to you. Have a happy and healthy 9 months!
2006-12-16 02:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a place called Crisis Pregnancy Center. They help tremendously (emotionally, spiritually, and of course physically).
This is what I got from the Crisis Pregnancy Center website http://www.pregnancycenters.org/index.html:
If you are looking for a pregnancy center outside of the United States or Canada, please call at 1-800-395-HELP (24hours/day) or send an e-mail. Option Line consultants are now available via AOL's Instant Messenger during limited hours of the day. Our screen name is "AnswersatOL1."
Hope that helps!
2006-12-16 02:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not abortion? at your age you could seriously hurt your self, might prevent yourself from having children later, and there is a HIGH possibility that you yourself will have serious complications. i know some people don't believe in abortion but at your age do you want to risk death and leaving your baby to someone you may not trust?
talk to your mom, or a guidance counselor, or friends mom. if you live in NH you can go to a family plannin clinic and they can help you decide, and our laws say your parents don't have to consent to it if you decide to have an abortion. check out someplace like this in your state. If you can't find something like this where you live, email me and i would be happy to help you find some place, at least to TALK to some one face to face.
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2006-12-16 02:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by soccer2music 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the only thing you can do now is take responsibility for your actions. You need your parents to help you and the baby's father. You are really young so you really need help from an adult. Good luck with your baby and God bless you.
2006-12-16 02:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank god u arent going to abort it plz dont!!
But yeah...if u r not with the daddy you can make him pay child support...but dont worry so much try to get a job and maintain the baby.
2006-12-17 04:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by RoelinaP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋