out of curiosity I've noticed men have a fling on the side, the mistresses feelings get involved but no matter what he says to the mistress, he never leaves his wife. What do you think is going through the mistresses mind about the whole situation?
2006-12-16 01:51:40 · 17 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SHe's thinking that he loves her and that he will change and leave the wife. Sad. But why would a man do THAT. Stands to reason that a person that cheats WITH you, will cheat ON you as well................
2006-12-16 01:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Most of the time I think the mistress believes all the kiss-*** manipulative words and false promises that the married man gives her because he makes her feel "special" whenever he is with her... and if she is "special" then he must want to leave his wife to be with her. But then he always gives her excuses like "oh right now is the right time, my wife is sick" or "I won't have any money", etc. etc. But there might be part of her that still clings on to the hope that they will be together.
2006-12-17 19:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down they know that they are NEVER really gonna leave their wife. Would the excitement really be there with them if they left their spouse? A fling is a fling!! Yes people's feelings get hurt, but knowing what you got yourself into..... Self explanatory! I do not condone cheating in any way shape or form!! This last year I found myself in that situation, I found me saying to him.. What would she do in this situation? How would you feel if she did this too you? We never went any further and are still friends. I would like to think I'm a good person. But, there are always buts......
2006-12-16 11:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by smokinsarasue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the sole purpose of the mistress is to lure the husband away from the wife, so she can enjoy the same benefits as the wife has, she has an agenda. however if the husband refuses to leave the wife, than the mistress will get very frustrated and upset. as when she sees the years fly by with no effort to leave the wife, she begins to wonder if he ever loved her at all. as she has no benefits, she can't count on him to be there whenever she wants him to be. as he has a family and hiw wife has no clue. she has invested love in him, and she is seeing that she has no future with him, so her mind is all confused, she is left unforfilled and feeling unloved.
2006-12-16 09:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am assuming you are female. People are people, what would go through your mind? Human beings are human beings, what do you think would go through your mind? There is your answer. The mistress probably assumes that one day he will make good on his word, she is probably in love with the married man. Spends many holidays and special occasions alone and unhappy. Probably has many moments of regret on how she ever got herself into such a position. Who really knows, why don't you ask a woman who has been in this position. Read a book on the subject. God bless****
2006-12-16 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends-- I have had two girlfriends who liked to date married men because neither of them was interested in a deep, meaningful, honest relationship.
Then there are women who delude themselves into thinking that some guy is going to give up everything and start a life with the mistress. Why should he? He's got a pretty cushy thing going for himself.
2006-12-16 10:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by ladsmrt 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think they have clouded judgement thinking that they are the ones that are so special that a man is willing to end his marriage in order to be with her. It very rarely happens that way, but most mistresses think thier situation is different than everyone elses'.
2006-12-16 09:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I was the mistress and he did leave his wife for me and we've been married almost 8 years now. Before he left her though I had hoped dearly that he would leave her for me. My usual rule was not to get emotionally involved with a married man. He was my first but I knew him we were friends, I knew his pains and I knew what he needed and I gave him that. She denied him the love he needed it was not just sex with us, he wanted love and a friend who wanted to get involved in his life on all levels and I did that. For most mistresses that I know of who did not get the man in the end they did not think anything bad of the wife. They knew the nature of the relationship with the guy and it satisfied them. I did not think anything bad of his wife at that time, heck I was glad she was not doing enough to keep him. He was/is a wonderful man and I got very lucky!
2006-12-16 10:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Oh some leave. But, what does the mistress think? Damn, what's SHE got that I haven't got?
2006-12-16 10:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A mistress usually doesn't like strings--but some want more so they get upset.
2006-12-16 09:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋