Can anyone help me out with this situation?

Question

A few months ago, I used to be friends with a guy in my class. After going out several times, we quickly became very close and eventually, we became best friends. One day, there was a fight between us and we became enemies. We fought for days in class and he would call me several names and make fun of me. I was hurt and it made me sad. He even went to the extent of hanging out with another girl to make me jealous. On the last day of school, we decided to stop fighting and be friendly to each other. Now, he is in Thailand for vacation and just recently, he msned me and told me he missed me. Why would he say that? Shouldn't he say he misses his other friend (the one that he hanged out with to make me jealous) ? I know he wants to be friends again and so do I but, should I ask him if he wants to best friends again? I'm afraid that he and the other girl have become very good friends. Help?

What I mean is I'm afriad he and the other girl are best friends or boyfriend and girlfriend.

Answer 1

well a diffuclt situation there but the only reason he was hanging with that girl was to make you jealous because deep down he liked you if you like this guy i think you should tell him

Answer 2

Carie

Sounds like you have a very deep but confused definiton of what consititues a "friendship" between a boy and a girl. It all sounds somewhat possesive, and yet detached on your part. Your relationship seems to go from platonic to volitile at the drop of a hat, - is it passion or control at work here?

I know what I am about to ask is none of my business. I know, and it's rude of me to ask, but in this day & age it seems that there is no age of consent anymore, so I will ask anyway. By chance were you and this young man ever intimate with each other? If you were not - Please accept my deepest aplogiy for even thinking of such a thing, but if I am not wrong in asking this question. Then I think we both know why he called you and not the other young lady, do we not?

In any event, my advice to you is this. You seems to be a bright young woman, with the sense to ask for help about a relationship you don't understand, and for that I say "Bravo!" Now listen, you've got almost you're whole life ahead of you, so much to see, so much to learn, and experience. Slow down, finish your studies, take time to enjoy these years of your youth - you will be too soon old enough to join the ranks of us who must get up every day, and "be responsible", got to our jobs, struggle to make it through the day, stay under the radar, don't antogonize the boss, have a qucik pint after work with ourr mates, and then hurry home so that we can hear over dinner how our son the Moron, "borrowed" the wife's car and mananged to drive it thru the gararage, across the backyard, and into the back of the neighbor's hjouse and jacuzzi; and can you take him to the Doctor she's afraid he might have a concussion, and maybe a broken arm, he's up in his room and hasn't ome out since the "accident" about an hour ago,

You are young and pretty, you will meet and date scores of handsome young men before you meet Mr. Right, your soul partner, your "Life Mate" - and believe-you-me when you walk into each other's lives - you will know it, But this is'nt him, and the time is not now. So go, have fun, have friends, leave room in your Heart for Angels to dance, stop along the way and rub sunshine on your face, and be true to yourself.. Stay close to your mom, and always Kiss your Daddy goodnight for you will always be his girl, and be careful out there. Good Luck

I'm pulling for you.

Answer 3

ppl say and do all sorts of things when they are angry, but that doesn`t mean that they actually mean it. u could ask him what`s going on between him and that other girl, but since u guys were so close and u both wanna save your friendship, u should just believe him when he tells u he misses u. why couldn`t he? anyway, before going further with what u guys have, u should talk about the things that happened during the time u were fighting, and u should clarify everything that bothers either of u, no matter when it happened....communication is the key! don`t be afraid, that`s the only thing that can stand in the way of love!

Answer 4

Friends are very important. You should be happy that your friend has other friends. It is a major job to be someones only friend. you need some more friends too. Go now and find some friends and dont worry about him having another friend. If you miss him say so. If not- tell him to have fun and leave it at that.
Being best friends is a special relationship- both people should understand and agree about being best friends. just tell him how you feel.
The odds are your friends will change- through life, try to find it in your heart to love everyone. even the other girl that is his friend. Just, dont tell him your secrets if you dont want her to know them too. Good luck!!

Answer 5

He probably does miss you. You can ask him about the other girl and if they have become very good friends. Your friendship with him should be important to both of you, not his relationship with the other girl.

Answer 6

goodfriends meaning girlkfriend and boyfriend or? anyway if he msned you and told you he missed you it may be true. since he is far from you he has realised that youare her true friend and if he has asked you to be friends with him again its true he misses you. try to forgive him and stop being jealous about that other girl he might be friend but he is not into her lilke he is on your part

Answer 7

if you are really talking about friendship then what's the problem with him having another friend? It sounds to me you're leaning more towards a relationship.

Answer 8

in time you should decide

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