I have a friend that does not want to have an abortion but wants a safe place to go to have her baby and then give it to a family looking to adopt. Is there anywhere like this?
2006-12-16 01:32:55 · 8 answers · asked by concerned for a friend... 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There are many places that handle this.Look in your local yellow pages under adoption or family planning.
2006-12-16 01:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by G M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before she has the baby she can contact an adoption agency. There she'll be put into contact with a couple looking to adopt. Many times the birth mom lets the couple be a part of the whole pregnancy and birth, other times not. She (the birth mom) can also decide if she wants to have an open adoption, where she will still be in contact with the child, or a closed one. The adoption agency can help her with all of that.
She could search for adoption agencies in the phone book or on the internet. She could probably also check with the local Child Protective Services people to see if they have a list of good adoption agencies that have good reputations.
If, for any reason, your friend doesn't or can't get in touch with an adoption agency, if she's in the United States she can take advantage of the Safe Haven laws many states have. What they do is allow a woman to take her baby to a hospital, fire station, or police station and give it up safely with *no questions asked*. She will not be in trouble or anything. So you might want to do a search on Safe Haven laws about what the laws where you live are.
Best of luck to your friend. It's a tough decision to have a baby, and even tougher to decide the best thing to do is to give it up for adoption. There are many places and people that are ready and willing to help her. And you're a great friend for trying to help her.
2006-12-16 09:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She can contact an adoption agency. Or, in many states there is a "Safe Haven" law where a woman can go to the hospital, have a baby and leave without it--no questions asked. Here's a toll-free phone number for information on Safe Haven: 1-877-725-5111. And here is a website that tells all about it: http://probation.co.la.ca.us/public_info/safeheaven.pdf
I just want to add that I think that giving a baby up for adoption is one of the most selfless, giving, wonderful things a woman can do. People don't realize how tough a decision it is to make. There are a lot of wonderful, loving parents out there. And I think you are a great friend for being there for her. Keep supporting her through this--she will need it.
2006-12-16 09:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In most every state she can have the baby then hand it to any officer or hospital and they will find a home with no questions asked. However if I was her I would want to select the family that my child got! Tell her to search the web for adoptive family's. They probably already have an attorney and would help her with whatever costs she has concerning the family. The would have passed a hon study to make sure its a safe place for the family. And she may find a family that will allow her to be in the child's life if she chooses to.
2006-12-16 09:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should contact social services in your area and they can give her a list of resources for adoption, or just look up adoption in the yellow pages.
I live in Omaha and I know that one of the Catholic agencies has a program where pregnant women can live during their pregnancy and stay until they get back on their feet. Maybe there is some place similar in your area.
2006-12-16 09:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are still some chartable organizations that run, what used to be called "a home for unwed mothers". Where you friend can stay and get good food, medical care, and help with adoption (Oftentimes they offer school and job training as well). I don't know what they call them anymore.
If you talk to a social worker, public health nurse, or church they should be able to tell you what is available in your area. Maybe try the Salvation Army as well. I am sure there is one somewhere near you. Do the research for her, she will really appreciate it.
2006-12-16 10:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to give the Crisis Pregnancy Center a call or email. Here's their info:
They help tremendously (emotionally, spiritually, and of course physically).
This is what I got from the Crisis Pregnancy Center website http://www.pregnancycenters.org/index.html:
Please call at 1-800-395-HELP (24hours/day) or send an e-mail. Option Line consultants are now available via AOL's Instant Messenger during limited hours of the day. Our screen name is "AnswersatOL1."
Hope that helps!
2006-12-16 10:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to talk her out of it first of all,make sure your being a good friend and let her know you will help her however you can,and make her know she can do it.wow I feel bad,I heard you can just leave the baby at the hospital without any questions being asked,by the time the baby is close to being born she will change her mind i hope.
2006-12-16 10:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by please can i have a best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋