I came to the point today, when i have just had enough!
i have been a carer for my mother for 11 years, and i went to see my cuzin today for her bday, and she fell over and i really hurt my back just to get her up, i am so sick of being a carer now, iam going to be 18 in aprill and i want to have a life, i have not even had a childhood becuase of a childhood trauma, aswell as mum being ill.
I know it sounds selfish, but can you understand?
but also i have social phobia, and depression so i hate being on my own and i need my mum, but i am just trapped,
have you got any advice?x
2006-12-16 01:25:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
that's a tough one girl - been in a similar boat with my grandparents and great aunt.
i had the same - social phobia and depression.
the only thing that might change that is if your situation changes or you go on meds. i hate to offer that advice, but the meds worked for me.
i know this sounds lame, but you are not given anything you can't handle. good luck honey, and hang in there!
2006-12-16 01:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a good person and yes you don't have to do it alone or at all, call Social Services office like the answer from Buddy said, you are not responsible for this and you have a right to your life. All this may take a little while but keep your chin up things will change for the better, and you will then have your own life. God bless and good luck.
2006-12-16 01:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound really nasty but there comes a point when you cant live your life for everyone elses benefit, you have to think about you for once, stick her in a nursing home - spend time and find a decent one, that way you'll be less likely to beat yourself up over doing it.
If you dont, before you know it you'll be 30, single and miserable - and thats a place you dont want to be.
2006-12-16 01:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a break try to get some respite and have some quality time for yourself being a carer is hard work you know that and yes we all get down about it,talk to the people involved with your mum they should be able to help
2006-12-16 01:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by oG33MANo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So i can see u r in a really unpleasant situation n u should know that i'm really sorry about it.I think u should talk to your mother.explain that you have a life too...! you want to go out, have fun,meet ur friends.it's abnormal if your whole life is your family.dont stop taking care of her though, especially if u r the only one she has...and dont be afraid , she's just used in it..used in you...she doesn need u as much as you think....but she does.
good luck.!
2006-12-16 01:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I understand have a chat with Social Services, they will help you
2006-12-16 01:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋