As I get older and all my friends get married and have kids, I do not. I am not sure how I feel about marriage, but don't want kids. They send me the pictures of kids and tell me how great married life is. I feel like I will never get there. Oh, I have had a number of guys ask me to marry them, but I'm just picky. As to who actually loves me and will continue loving me when I'm old and gray and sagging?
2006-12-16 01:19:35 · 17 answers · asked by amazon 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is true. when you get older you tend to outgrow your friends. it's because of change and different life experiences. there's nothing wrong with being picky, as i was much the same as you. i just waited till the right moment and found him. as for children, you'll get there eventually. when you find your prince, you will begin a family. it just takes time. be patient and let love find you.
2006-12-16 01:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, picky is a front for fear. And eventually, you will get to where your friends are and you will totally relate to the "parenting" life.
I was where you are...didn't want to settle and didn't want kids and then WHAM! I did what I always said I wouldn't and wouldn't change it for the world.
You haven't outgrown them, they have outgrown you because they have taken on a HUGE responsibility starting their own family. They send you pics to share a wonderful thing with you not to make you question yourself (personally, I don't sent pics of my kids to friends because it's useless because they don't treasure my children, the pic will end up crumbled somewhere, in a box etc...) They may also ENVY YOU at times.
Remember: They too have the potential of outgrowing their OWN SPOUSES and growing apart. Their life is not as "great" as they tell you it is (especially if they have more than one child).
2006-12-16 09:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we all go through stages in our life.
I've been with my man for 9 years and we have no children (as I can't have them) but all my friends have them. I get the pictures and stuff too but I'm not interested in hanging out with them with their children.
As we get older, the circle of people around us get smaller and smaller. We don't spend a lot of time with friends because they are at a different stage in their life.
There is nothing wrong with you. You will find what you want in life.
2006-12-16 09:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friends may change, and friendships evolve, but they never truly end. Because they are not merely the destination of a passing moment, but the journey of a lifetime."
I guess that is my inspirational quote for the day.
i am in agreement with you. you should feel great about not wanting to engage frivilously into a lifelong commitment. your friends who are now married and tell you how great it is- lie. marriage is great, but has its share of ups and downs too, so doesn't having kids, so i think you should hang in there and just be you.
2006-12-16 09:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree for the most part. I mean everyone changes and their interests become different. I have only a couple of friends from my youth I keep in close touch with still. Otherwise things go on.
My wife is a little better. She has retain 4 friends from her childhood. They are close still.
2006-12-16 09:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by farmhand 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friends are too good for me but by Grace they tolerate me!!
as to the get married and have kids model - i think it is arcane and obsolete and nothng about it calls to me - i feel sorry for people who are lost inside that old model of thinking.
What does the future hold for me? i don't know. I thank god for my friends and wish i could get laid at least once a week!! The world is my partners, the one great soul my comfort ....
2006-12-16 09:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 63. This has happened all my life. It's called growing into who you really are. Them too. Then you gravitate toward others more like the new you. It's all very normal.
2006-12-16 09:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by anya_mystica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2006-12-16 09:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mary G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we get older we change, we get busy with our own lives, and because of that we keep very few of our friends from the teenage years.
2006-12-16 15:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have found over the years you slowly lose most of your friends for one reason or another but the few real good mates that are left become even better mates,would rather a handful of real good mates than a load of hangers on,know what i mean
2006-12-16 09:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by delboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋