I get stuck in the middle everyday thinking who to believe. It's hard to see my parents fight but I have to deal with it. What I'm asking is, HOW can I stand it? :-( (-:
2006-12-16 01:00:41 · 9 answers · asked by kendre j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
darling..... there are three sides to every story... his, hers, and the truth.
you also need to believe NONE of what you hear and less than half of what you see.... things are never as they appear.
it sux that you feel like you are stuck in the middle... you should not be feeling that way.
you should also not be in a position to believe one parent over the other.
let them know that you aren't comfortable hearing all this... maybe there is someplace you can stay for the christmas break, a aunt or grandparents house?? your parents should realize (if you talk to them) that it is wrong for them to put you in the middle.
good luck
2006-12-16 01:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents fought (literally) every day until my dad died at age 90. It was hard growing up - in fact, its a form of abuse. What one does is try to get you on their side against the other, right? Been there, done that.
Your best course of action is to say (loudly, if need be) "I refuse to get involved!" then walk away, or leave the house. The fighting is between them and has nothing to do with you. They are the ones who need to seek professional help in resolving their issues.
2006-12-16 01:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write them each a little letter saying you think it is unfair for them to involve you in the issues of their divorce, that you are their child, not their friend and that you are not going to listen to either side, that you are going to have zero tolerance when it comes to that.
Take the high road in this. In a way you have to be the adult in this situation. You may get resistance at first but they will trust and respect you later.
2006-12-16 01:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to be stuck in the middle at all--you're theit child. Instead-they should be trying harder to make you understand why they are getting a divorce and seeing you through it. Sorry you are caught up in this.
2006-12-16 01:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the offspring then just let them deal with it.
You love them both right? Stay out of it...one of your parents try to talk to you about it just refuse to take sides. You take sides and the other will consider it as just that...you love one and not the other.
Stay out of it!!!!
2006-12-16 01:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remain neutral and stay out of the middle...
If one parent is clearly doing something wrong, then
it is obvious as to who you should side with...
2006-12-16 02:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your parents are being so selfish and immature around you in their problems.
You have to tell them that you try and understand what falling out of love is, but their making it harder on you, and you shouldn't even heart about what is going on, until all is settled and then they can sit calmly and explain it to you.
You tell them I said so!! And tell them both to GROW UP!!
2006-12-16 01:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have no business fighting in your presence, you shouldnt have to be subjected to that. Tell them how it makes you feel.
2006-12-16 01:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-16 01:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋