i need to know how can i have a strong heart to manage the hurt of a breakup without hate and revenge. i just want the person who hurt me be put into oblivion and i want a new love to emerge far far different from the past loves i have.
2006-12-16 00:59:47 · 9 answers · asked by tomi 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do I know all about this one, oh dear..Babe, keep busy like many others have said, never blame yourself or wonder what you did wrong..Never change yourself, you are fine just the way you are..In time it all will go away, dont be around other couples it will only make you more bitter..Being hurt when we have expectations is unfortunately part of life, keep your head up hold it high..In life sometimes we have a habit of dating the same person but in different forms, I have been guilty of it myself..Be with yourself for a while like someone else said, you will learn what you want and need in someone and you will no LONGER settle for less than you deserve..enjoy yourself, take yourself to a movie, take yourself shopping, learn how to knit or crochet it is becoming the big thing again..And just live, dont let someone else steal your joy and the moments you could have of happiness..May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person that screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch..Take care
2006-12-16 03:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by bellydancersatori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 16:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, time is the only cure for a broken heart. You can help pass the time easier by staying busy. Go out with your single friends (you probably don't want to be around couples) and have some fun! Some people spend more time working, or on a hobby. What you don't want to do is be home by yourself with nothing to do except think about your ex.
2006-12-16 01:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by CraigRC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need some time to just be with yourself for awhile and take an honest assessment of why you keep seeming to attract people that aren't to your satisfaction. And it is okay to date several people and not get serious for awhile. Figure out what will make you happy and don't settle for any less. It might be a good idea to not have sex for awhile until you get into a monogamous relationship again because that activity has a way of complicating things. . .
2006-12-16 01:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tomi
Well, you have to accept things as they are.
You have to remember you can't change people which once you accept this you move on.
Well, I had my highschool sweet hart loussiana lily email me from classmates.com which was 23 years ago. I still remember, I was hurt because she went out with this gangmember which she married and had two kids. She divorced him because he is in jail again.... Well, I think Karma is a wonderful thing....
Just let it be.....
I also have to say, I did talk to her which I told her she hurted me and she laughed and said " was it my fault.."
Well, I did ask for forgivness which has set me free and I think that is what I was looking for...
She didnt' know what she did, but that is o.k. because I am feeling much better....
Accept things as they are today and move on...
2006-12-16 02:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by FXM65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I view it is that I keep loving my ex's but in a different way than my current boyfriend. To stop loving them would be hypocritical after so many great memories. Moving on is more of a conscious decision for me than an emotional one.
2006-12-16 01:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Professor Maddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is no easing way...You have to wait it out, keep busy and tire yourself out so you sleep. Honestly enough time will do it, think of the bad stuff, that should make it easier. DON'T OVER EAT. Good luck you deserve better...
2006-12-16 01:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only two things other than meeting someone else.
That is keeping busy and time.
2006-12-16 01:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by canoratrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the club
2006-12-16 01:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋