He treats employees like they are stupid and aggravate him on purpose, he is always asking me whats wrong, discussions always end up with me being accused of not wanting to be here, he takes EVERTYTHING in the defense. help me! I am losing my love for him.
2006-12-16 00:29:12 · 12 answers · asked by Fuzzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him the next time it comes up that you are willing to listen to whatever he is dealing with and going through but that you refuse for it to be turned into an argument that has nothing to do with you, the next time he tells you that you dont want to be there, tell him that his insecurities are putting a major wedge between what your heart feels and what you feel is best for you. Tell him that you love him but you are tired of repeating yourself and reassuring him, when it doesn't seem to be getting any better and that you are at the point that you can't handle him treating you like he can't trust in what you say to him, and if his trust issues are that deep, you feel its best that you just go because he is suffocating you with his accusations and insecuritues. Tell him that the only thing wrong is he is driving you insane with his questions and that you want to love him in peace but its not possible because he wont let you without being so defensive and guarded and you havent done a damn thing to deserve being treated that way so he needs to back off or leave, because you dont want his actions to drive you away and that is what he is doing. Good Luck
2006-12-16 00:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is dumping on you, because he doesn't want to do a personal check on himself. It takes all the focus off of him! Does that make sense? When a person is confronted about a personal issue and starts laying blame on others, it is to keep them from owning their problem. Try asking questions as to why he would do such things, but do so in a non-accusatory manner. If you sound accusatory at all, then he will automatically go on the defense. Try a soft compassionate tone with him, and just let him know that you are concerned. Good Luck!
2006-12-16 00:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say: Are you married? this is the difference. If not think about starting out with someone else, if your married maybe you'd better ask him if he'd want to go to a marriage consular.
It sound like he's going through a period of manic depression, this has to be taken care of by a professional. It takes two to three years of treatment and even follow ups. he defiantly will get worse before better.
2006-12-16 00:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd turn the tables on him and tell him I'm not one of his employees and if he wants to fight with me then just say so cause he's going to loose anyway. I'd be throwing back the accusations so fast and have him all shook up.
2006-12-16 00:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, get out fast!!!!! I had an ex-husband like that, he got worse when we got married. He was so insecure, I felt like every day that went by I had to defend myself about something that he would accuse me of, he was constantly insecure about everything. I left him and never looked back. He needs help but dont waste your time on his shortcomings.
2006-12-16 00:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there I completely understand I got married about a year ago and all the love I feel for my husband seem to slowly go away, he blames me for the stupidest little thing, like its my fault that he hasnt learned inglish and that he hasnt been able to use his palm handheld because if I had taught him inglish he could understand it. and small things like that. I feel like im dying inside. Please dont let him blame you never accept hes right! Why do us women have to go thru this. Best of luck if you need someone to talk to email me. Im going thru the same things. sexydollxoxo@yahoo.com
2006-12-16 00:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is insecure. Unconsciously, he feels by bulling he can maintain a certain level of control. He can't admit to the fact that in reality we control very little in our lives. If you want your marriage to last, you both need professional help.
2006-12-16 01:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes this happens bcoz he really loves u...i know it sounds silly....but maybe he feels that u dont love him back the same way he loves u. when that happens some guys get very aggressive and tries to accuse.....i think he is just frustrated....try be more loving towards him....if that doesnt change him then he just dont want u around anymore
2006-12-16 00:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you are because HE is driving you away. People like that often act this way out of feelings of inadequecy. He probably will only get worse as he ages. If he won't talk with you or get couples therapy, he isn't worth your while.
2006-12-16 00:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋