Like you don't know this already!!!!
I'll be going home next week, and I haven't seen my family and friends for about a year.
I've gained about 5 pounds or so...but instead of people saying how glad they are to see you and what an amazing achievement it is that you've managed to be in a foreign country and a big city all on your own for an entire year...all they'll say is "you've put on some weight"!!!.
Why are people like this? Even your own family...
What can I say to people when they say this...?
2006-12-15 23:39:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Say with a BIG SMILE, 'Awww. Thank You and SO HAVE YOU!!' Usually just that tailored sentence about anything negative people will throw at you so they feel 5-up coupled with a smile and great laugh will usually shut them up fast and THEY feel embarrassed.
2006-12-15 23:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 20:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel good about yourself, such remarks will have no effect on you. Comments like this only have impact if you let them.
I don't know your circumstances, but I am sure that you are loved by your family and that you love them, so what does the rest matter? Sometimes love is expressed in strange ways, especially if people have been apart for awhile and awkward comments come out as everyone tries to find common ground.
My recommendation: Don't wait for people you love to express it in the way you want. Go up and give them a big hug and let them know that you love them! With love in your heart, you will be able to shrug off such silly comments with a smile.
Hope this helps! Have a great Christmas....
2006-12-16 00:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by indigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, I'm actually reticent to get together with old friends and family because I know they'll be judging me and at some point someone is going to make that comment. Inside my head I'll be saying "SHUT THE HELL UP!!!" but I will politely say, "Oh, I know, I've been having a great time lately...back to reality after the New Year." (Sheesh!) Best of luck to you, and don't let it get you down.
2006-12-15 23:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "Yes I did, and I feel wonderful!" I know how it feels though, my family is just like that. I'm from Europe, and I went to USA for one year. When I came back home this spring, they were like: "ooooh, u got lil fat girl..." But my family has always been like this, that's why I had anorexy when I was 13. Even now, I gotta keep my body in shape and stay slim. Anyways, where r u from baby? If u r from Europe, then u should know that everybody in Europe r like that, all they think about is your weight.
2006-12-15 23:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm..really?..is your hair thinning? Mmm..really?..I never noticed those wrinkles before. Mmm..really?..did you brush your teeth this morning? If insult doesn't put them off, just start a conversation on a completely different tangent. Mmm..Really?..how many bars of soap are in the house. Mmm..Really?..why are there so many Christmas decorations? I noticed them all over the place on my way here.
2006-12-15 23:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by Doug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh! i think you should not take all this negative. just be positive and when people are asking like all this, just smile and tell them this is given by nature. And no body can stop the natural things.
And if someone will ask you from your family, it means they are caring about you and really loving you.
Take care!!
2006-12-15 23:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Aabroo Aman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't really mean anything by it someimtes. My granny said last time I saw her,"Why yer fat as a pig" I just had to laff at her old azz siting in a wheelchair in the nursing home worried about me being fat. what-eva
2006-12-15 23:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They won't notice 5lb unless you were underweight before.
And if that's the case tell them you did it because you needed to.
2006-12-15 23:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to appreciate them to what they have told you, just say thank you for your comments
2006-12-15 23:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋