My daughter(14) makes us all late every morning as we have to wait for her to put on make-up etc-what do I do?

Answer 1

Start leaving without her, she will soon start to get ready earlier when she realises how crap it is trying to get to school by bus and being late.

Answer 2

First of all, you don't "have to wait for her" to put on make-up etc.

Problem #1 - Why is a 14 year wearing make-up? Especially enough that it's this time consuming? Use your gonads as a parent and set some boundaries.

Problem #2 - A 14 year old is controlling your entire family's schedule and their ability to be on time for their own responsibilities? Again... use your gonads as a parent. Set a limit. "You're outta there at 7:15 or you have a choice of bringing it with you or being left behind. Get up earlier if you need to, move faster if you need to, but the bus rolls out at 7:15 and if you plan on getting a ride, BE on it."

I know it sounds harsh... and the adjustment might be a bit much for everyone... but a family where the 14 year old is running the show, even in ONE area (I'm not insinuating you're a passive parent in every area) is a red flag. At 14 they do still need boundaries and having respect for the rest of the family and their schedules should be a priority. You'll be glad later you cracked the whip on this one. She'll grow up learning to respect the needs of those around her and to have respect for rules as well.

Answer 3

Tell her "The bus leaves in 30 minutes....be on it or catch the next one. The next bus leaves tomorrow at the same time." Make it sound friendly like a joke but be serious. Leave exactly on time every day and have someone available to look in on her if she is home all day one time.

Make sure she is up a little earlier and help her any way you can but be firm. 14 is old enough to start taking responsibility. When she is 16 she could have a job and this is better comming from you than an employer!

Answer 4

Talk to her and tell her that she has to get up earlier if it is going to take her so long to get ready in the morning, that it isn't polite that she makes everyone late waiting for her. Let her know that you will not wait for her anymore, you will either leave without her, or she will have to come with on time as she is, even if that means she only has her make-up half done.

Answer 5

My 16 year old daughter isn't allowed to wear makeup at school but does take inordinate amounts of time in the morning straightening her hair. I usually leave around 8.00 am and after three or four mornings of being late and telling her I'd go without her, I finally did and she had to get the bus. She has been on time every morning since!!!!

Answer 6

Let me get this straight - this is your 14 year old daughter? Bloody well out your foot down then! She is dictating the rules to you and your wife and that is unacceptable. She is too young to be wearing make-up to school anyway, so put a stop to that as well.

You're her Dad - just tell her to get a move on or you'll leave her behind. Or she'll be grounded. Or throw her make-up away, and that 'll be the end of it!!

Answer 7

Tell her if she doesn't sort herself out on time so you all leave at a reasonable time then you will throw all her make up out. That should do it I would think, when I was 14 I was exactly the same make up and image was the most important thing. I bet she hates to be seen without some sort of make up on. Of course she is at the difficult objectionable teenage age anyway so you will always have some sort of battle with her. But I think she would be mortified to go to school without make up on.

Answer 8

Either make her get up earlier, leave without her, or make her go half done up. Better: Take away all the make up and let her think you have chucked it out. Then after the fit, let her earn back one item at a time by not dragging her feet.
Must be nice having parents who let themselves be controlled by a 14-year-old.
Charles "That Cheeky Lad"

Answer 9

She'll just have to get up earlier.... a girl & her make-up aren't easily parted... I know what I was like at that age (and still am now, with the ol' slap!)
Mornings are always so very busy. In my house, it's 4 adults and one bathroom, so has to military precision time wise, so that we get in the bathroom and out of the door to work on time.

Answer 10

Throw out her make up bag. She's 14 and plastering her face up to make her self look older. Children should remain children for as long as possible and parents should start being the parents and stop having the kids dictating to them.

Answer 11

Lash all the makeup in the bin and tell her she looks beuatiful without clogging up all her pores. And if she buys more keep throwing it, that way if she wants the fake look she can do it when she gets to school. You know 20 years ago when I was 14 if we went to school in makeup we'd get frogmarched to wash it off!!! It's stupid how these poor kids feel this pressure to grow up so fast.