I don't know my wife to be parents. we only met at the bible school and we churhed together until i travelled i felt in Love with her and i told her later when i travel and since we have been communicating and i send her money and all necessary now she said that she can not come to me she can only come and spend time not to live with me for more then two months and she quote the bible a man will leave his parents to cleave on his wife.. she's right she wants me to come and she will take me to her parents and i to my parents and as i do this we will organise our wedding sooner. what do you think i must do right now i am working with an oil company now and just spent 5 months here she cries everyday she want to see me i want to see her too.. and i can't leave job to go there im entitled of leave after one year in service...what should i do. advise me.
2006-12-15 22:30:52 · 4 answers · asked by Apelete M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she really loves you she will wait for you. She could come out to visit, then after your done with your year the two of you could be together. No partner that really cares about what is best for you would ask you to give up something that is important to you.
2006-12-15 23:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the one earning the money, I'd say do whatever it is the job requires. The bible didn't say anything about leaving a good paying job. If she wants to visit for awhile during your time of separation then that is great. If she decides to go home after that then that should be ok too.
This isn't anything to be crying every day over. You two have decided to become a team. There is a joy to bearing the responsibilities of being the other half. There is a joy in knowing you have found that special person and that you are both working towards the goals that benefit your relationship.
Sounds like you have another 7 months to go. If you need to plan the wedding for when you are on leave then let her start now.
Personally, I don't think that bible passage really applies, as you do not live with your parents and if she comes to stay with you then you are cleaving to your wife. Anyway, try to take an objective look at your time frames and go from there.
And ask that girl to find some joy in this relationship. She has you. That's everything, apart or not.
2006-12-16 15:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you and her need to talk about what is best for you guys. I mean if you don't have a job you can't provide for her aand she needsd to understand that but if there is a way for you guys to compromise you should maybe you can look for a different job closer to her or she could stay with you for the year you have to stay and then as soon as the year is up you guys can move back to where she wants to live.
2006-12-16 07:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant? that's your total problem. get a backbone.
2006-12-16 06:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by explorer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋