There's always ups and downs, but what do two people need to make it through the rough spots? If you've been happily married for 20+, give up the secret please!
2006-12-15 22:10:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The secret is to treat each other with love and respect...never ever take each other for granted....laugh with each other....alot...take time to have fun together....trust each other and allow your partner quiet time, privacy, and independance when they need that.....go on dates with each other.....dance without music.....make love...hold hands...kiss...often! Keep the magic alive by exploring new things together....and never go to bed angry...forgive each other....good luck
2006-12-15 22:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My two cents because I myself am going through the same thing you are. An elderly women that has been helping me along and who has been married for many good years up until her husband died in a house fire just a few years ago.
He would go and get books that would teach him about understanding women and love and relationships. Dont go nuts with them but take the time to read them on a regular basis, always keep them out somewhere where they are handy. I really dont think "expect" us to understand them, but the simple fact of trying to will do wonders. Read a chapter from a book from time to time, I'm sure it will bring up questions that you will have for your wife. The talking about it with her is one of the things you can do that I'm sure will keep her feeling close and loving you.
2006-12-15 23:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Bill S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As you said there are ups and downs, I have been married for 21 years mostly happily, not always. Finding someone you are compatible with helps with the lows.
2006-12-15 22:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jim C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is what I wrote in my niece and her new husband's wedding card....
Marriage is not always going to be easy. When things get tough, turn to one another, be there for one another, and always love one another.
I would like to share with you, some of my tips for a happy marriage
Trust; a marriage cannot last without it.
Honesty; sometimes the truth hurts, but always be truthful for if you are not truthful to your partner you are being untruthful to yourself and your marriage.
Let the one you love be themselves, and feel free to be yourself.
Respect the one you love, and you will be respected.
Praise the one you love; a kind word goes a long way.
Say “I love you,” not only with words, but with gestures too.
Remain open-minded, don’t judge one another or jump to conclusions.
Communicate with each other; understand where your partner is coming from, be aware of and accept each other’s point of view.
Allow your spouse space, you will find you will need it too.
Do not speak words in anger that cannot be taken back.
Do not take each other for granted
Forgive and allow yourself to be forgiven.
Never go to bed angry with each other.
AND
Love each other like there is no tomorrow.
2006-12-15 23:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Star 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married 8 years happily.
1. Put Christ at the center of your marriage and trust Him to
fulfill your needs.
2. Give each other the grace to be HUMAN.
Read the book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs, it will change your life I promise.
2006-12-15 22:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maintain your good health by maintaining good regular three meals every day , need little bit meditations and light exercise . Make sure you must have fun with your mate , at least two times in a week . You will enjoy your life at your fullest till you are eighty .
2006-12-15 23:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel if both people show these qualities the relationship can last and last:
If you believe in God put him first and then for each other....
Love:
(have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for each other)
Respect:
(have esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a your loved ones' qualities and abilities)
Longsuffering:
(when there are problems endure throughout and work it out patiently)
Kindness:
(just be kind to one another, like each other, be friendly with each other often, show your loved one they are cared about)
Goodness:
(practice virtue and moral excellence throughout your relationship)
Faith in each other:
(have confidence and trust in each other)
Unselfishness:
(as the old saying goes, it is better to give than to receive in ALL things)
Self-Control:
(do not cheat because if you do trust goes out the window. do not ever let your anger become out of control either)
Tender Affection:
(be considerate of one another, be devoted to each other and show that you are both fond of each other)
Being each other's BEST friend is A+ also.
2006-12-15 22:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by TheOne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
acknowledge that you are both different person raised in different ways and environment. your choice will always be different. you have to find ways to make it agreeable to both parties not by just one controlling it especially the husband. instead of getting upset in a decision making, realize that the other needs to understand. help to understand one another by argumentations. not showing who is smarter or stronger or popular or whatever. your spouse already knows your weaknesses. for me one sign of weakness is getting married - (you deciided to marry somebody to feel satisfied in life) . why pretending you are greater to one another? only if that one is experiencing insecurities. help that other one loose his/her insecurities. i have my own perception of stages of personality.
1. food
2.shelter
3.. security
4. friendship
5. love
6. marriage
7. children.
8. beauty
9. god
10
should be satisfied at a certain degree in order to get into the next stage. its like you won't feel beauty if you don't have food. you won't feel getting married if you feel insecure. you get the point?
2006-12-15 22:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
By finding out what is the nature of love. Where does love come from. Heart - Listen to your heart.
2006-12-15 22:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by catcher 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust, honesty, communication and respect. As long as you give those and demand that they be returned, ANY marriage can work.
2006-12-16 01:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋