I had a frend of mine who loss his daughter many years ago. He never saw her when she was born till she passed away. Right now he has 3 daughters but still thinking of this missing one. Every time he think of her, he cries. Please I need your support.
2006-12-15 21:43:04 · 8 answers · asked by sue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is in need of some good professional help. He has not overcome the loss. He may be having a lot of guilt over all that has happened.
One thing is remain his friend and loyal to him. He will need your support emotinally. Try to get him to see a professional or get into greif counseling.there are many greif help goups around and he may need their support also.
Hope you can persuade him to do this. he needs it .
This is a problem that many face today. he is not alone in this
keep being there for him and encourage him to seek help dont push though.
2006-12-15 21:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but, if he's still grieving over her he's beyond your help. He needs professional help and quick. If he has had a mild break down and, it sounds like he has, he needs help or he may never come out of it.
Sometimes we think we are doing someone a favor by helping them when we are actually harming them. After all this time if he hasn't had a handle on his grief he may never now.
The best thing you could do is encourage him to get counseling. We all suffer differently, some average a few months, some a year but "years" is abnormal.
2006-12-15 21:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with both answerers before me. Your friend should get professional help. A person like him is way beyond mere words. We have no idea our that our words might hurt him, or even send him deeper into that abyss. Ask him to look for professional help. Tell him, it doesn't make him a nutcase. It only means he needs help.
2006-12-15 22:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same feeling of love with my daughter who passed away at the age of one years.After forty years it is very difficult for me to forget her. It is due to the extreme love with the daughter. I also cry in the night when she comes to my memories. I love her very much. My wife failed to give her proper treatment. I therefore rebuked my wife and also hhold her responsible for the death of my daughter. OK. It is the will of God. Please be calm and cool.
2006-12-15 21:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that for 1 loss he was benefitted with 3 most beutiful gifts,
2006-12-15 22:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by oh its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be god's wish, & again if he wishes he get the daughter back.
2006-12-15 22:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he never had a closure.He has to revisit everything about his daughter and collect everything everything he owned. After ward she has to forgive himself cos everything that happened was not his fault.tell him that his daughter is in heaven and he can talk to her thorough payer.
2006-12-15 21:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you just need to tell him if he ever needs to talk he can call you and tell him that you will be there for him no matter what
2006-12-16 02:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by dolphinluvr47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋