i have never hit my wife, cheated on or her or even lied to her. she says it is the lack of trust i have in her, checking her email and questioning her, and when we get into it i call her names. i know i went to far many times and i will never again invade anothers personal space as that but although she has never cheated on me (in words) she has let a guy feel her up while she was drunk and i was in the front seat of the car (she pulled away from him when he tried to kiss her and said something to me) and she is also a big flirt when she gets drunk. to make things worse i am in the military and over seas, she left to be with her family and figure some stuff out, she want give me any answer of what will happen or how she feels and she goes from saying she doesnt love me to not sure if she loves me or not. i love her alot and want to try for her and change but i want her to change some stuff to but can not say that becouse it will make it worse. i am confused on just what to do. help
2006-12-15 21:39:54 · 11 answers · asked by afraidandconfused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DUMP HER! Save yourself the trouble and do it now, while it's still cheap. Be single and date around and have sex with tons of chicks. Do it before it becomes a serious financial issue.
She is obviously not mature enough to be in a marriage. If she goes out and gets drunk and let's other guys feel her up while you are in the car, she has no respect for you. If you were in the car with her, and another woman was giving you a BJ, what kind of respect would you have for your wife? It's kind of like the same thing that your wife did to you.
File the papers now. File em file em file em! Dump that ******! You deserve way better than that stupid whore of a wife.
2006-12-15 22:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...this is interesting...
First...you don't fall out of love in one month...this take at least a couple of years...
What she did while being drunk...was trying to make you jealous...and she needed the drink to have the courage to do it... but the fact that she did not let him kiss her...shows that she still knew what she was doing and only wanted to make you jealous.
She is playing a game with you...she wants something from you...and she will tell you what it is when you are crawling on all four and begging her to stay.
Or you can be a man and play the game as well...
Sit put...don't call her...don't contact her...
I bet you that within two weeks...she'll be contacting you...
When she does...be cool about it...don't ask for anything.
When she start talking about coming home...say that is OK with you. Nothing more than that.
That way...you got her back...and it has not cost you anything.
2006-12-16 06:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try figuring out what makes her feel loved, I do when my husband does little things to help me out, (doesn't happen very much). She might like it when you give her little gifts, or tell her how much you love her. There is a great book called 'The Five Love Languages'. Its a real eye opener. Being jealous will only push her away. Imagine how you would feel if you had done nothing wrong and the person you loved was suspicious and checking your emails, etc. It would be very hurt-full. It also might be a good idea to keep away from alcohol. Best wishes.
2006-12-16 05:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's not going to work out. The history of distrust...whether deserved or not, will keep coming back and you will be re-fighting the same battles for decades. The respect seems to be lacking as well, on her part...being drunk is never a good excuse, the contact takes it a little beyond flirting...wouldn't you think?. This is probably a case where you should take a few good lessons from the relationship, and go build a new one.
2006-12-16 06:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're confused? About which part? How much powder to pack in behind her in the Howitzer when you fire her sorry a$s into the next county?
You deserve much better, my man.
Dump this one, take a year off, then start looking again. There are good women out there.
2006-12-16 14:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe...
* that if you truly love her, you will find the path to her heart.
*you cant have love without trust.
*that this is not a new behaviour.
*you both need to acknowledge issues at hand and get proffessional help with.
*you need to be more patiant with her
*she is not in touch with herself or her feelings, hence the confusion of her own feelings
*I feel that she still loves you, otherwise she would not be hesitant in telling you out-right
I dont believe...
* she could have fallen out of love with you over a 1 month period, maybe longer
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-16 08:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and space and let her decide what she wants to do and whether she still loves you...if it is meant to be then she will come back...but you need to trust her and not call her names....that is not what people do who love each other...good luck
2006-12-16 05:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she let a guy feel her up with you around she has no respect for you, i would find someone else that wont treat you like that.
2006-12-16 05:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes already got a new boy Friend
2006-12-16 05:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and get her love for u back...
2006-12-16 06:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by oh its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋