what do you do when your partner starts messing with your head.?

Question

they tell you one thing then do another and never look you in the eyes.do you go along with things to keep the peace or let rip and let them have it,

Answer 1

I personally would firstly try to sit them down and talk calmly, explain that they are giving out mixed signals & ask for a straight answer to anything you need to know, if this fails then I would let rip. Good Luck

Answer 2

I hope you aren't married to this guy. He seems like a pathological liar. Obviously, when he doesn't look you in the eyes, he is lying to you.

Get your head out of your a*ss and wake up. People often say one thing but do another. Pay very very close attention to what the guy DOES, not what he SAYS. Action speaks louder than words.

This behavior also constitutes verbal abuse. He is verbally abusing your brain. Your brain has bumps and bruises from his constant abuse of confusing the hell out of you. If you can take the constant lying and cheating for the rest of your life, you should stick with him because he will never change. On the other hand, it might be time to let him go so that you can cut your losses short.

If he's not doing anything for you other than bringing you down and confusing you and giving you a painful time, then dump him. You are better off without him.

Answer 3

Well that's interesting that you ask this. You don't let it rip unless you can prove that their not being upfront with you. Here let me give you an example. Don't get this wrong I love my husband a lot but he has his times when he thinks he can play me if I let him.

Back during this summer he re-fianced our home so we could do some up grading on it. Well the money was suppose to be for the house. He wasn't able to get a checking account on his own because of some stupied thing he did a couple of years ago so I helped him get one through my bank. Of course my name had to be on the account first and then his but I told him as soon as all of the house repairs were done I would have the bank take my name off the account so he could have it for himself. I didn't have my name put on the check nor ask for an ATM card since I had plan to remove my name.Since I had on line banking with my own account he wasn't aware that I could monitor this account right from our computer. He had been using the account to pay his share of the bills , thinking I would never find out. He was keeping his pay checks as well. Finially the day came when he checked on the account and he calls me up at work fussing that there was only like a couple of hundred dollars left and was accusing me of spending the money. I never argued with him just let him think what he wanted. Instead, I pulled up the account and printed the account out and then high lighted all of his transactions and ATM's and show him in black and white where he had use the account routinely to pay his bills and how he use his ATM card to pull out cash as well. After that I wrote down how many of his pay checks he had kept plus the ATM withdrawal and how much he used to pay his bills and by the time I did all that he had use the account to benefit himself by 5,500 dollars. Once I show him how much he had use and spent on himself ,I informed him he'd be paying the house payment himself as well. He never said a word , I let him know I had access to the account the whole time and that I had watch the account all along and I had hoped he would have been as honest with me as I was with him and he could not change the facts.

So sometimes it's best to let things play themself out until you got the upper hand and have the proof you need to work things to your advantage.

Answer 4

We are getting divorced and work together. While at work I let it go to keep the peace...though it still doesn't work because he won't let it go. He goes through some SERIOUS mood swings though. At home, we just don't talk. He found out last night that I have found an apartment and will be moving in 2 weeks. That set him off even more. His mood swings are hard to deal with because he acts like nothing is wrong, touching me or watching me. But if I am sitting with my guy friend (who will also be my room mate) he starts slinging chairs in the break room or looking and acting like he is going to kill someone. So far I have managed to keep my temper in check at work...though I found out 2 nights ago I have MANY people keeping their eyes on me because they are afraid he will hurt me.

Answer 5

Someone badly messed with my head and it took a lot of courage but i finished it. Thats when you need yo be strong as they pull every trick outta the book to try and get you back, keep yourself busy and mentally strong. After a while you realise they are a coward and you kick yourself for not ending it sooner. I'm now having the time of my life and even tho he tries now and again, I laugh and walk off.
Hope this helps
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Answer 6

In my opinion my other half always says 1 thing and does another. But if you really truthfully feel he/she is up to no good, dont just let rip else their getting the rise they want. Explain what you feel and just say you thought you speak your mind, and leave it, it will give them something to think about. Once you spoken about it just say well your aware of changes and keep cool!!

Answer 7

Good advice from shotstuf...and spensmum. In the meantime run yourself a relaxing bath with loads of bubbles in a candle lit atmosphere and drink a nice glass or two of bubbly. You deserve it! Good Luck xxxx

Answer 8

Don't put up with this, I had one just the same and it turned out he was sleeping with 2 girls behind my back, I had a child with him, but he still had to go. I now have a wonderful husband who thinks the world of me and my daughter. also i have just had a baby boy. Just get away, there is better out there.

Answer 9

Let rip. Exercise a rolling pin on their egotistic excuse for a head(brain).

Answer 10

Play them at there own game. But dont assume until you know the facts.I learnt this through personnal experience.