It seems like most other gay men I meet just want to have instant sex, which is not my style. I'd like to feel like there is some kind of emotional connection involved. Where do I meet guys who want more than just sex?
I'm also not into the bar scene and it seems like many people in that scene are cruising, anyway. Any suggestions?
2006-12-15 21:06:27 · 6 answers · asked by postcibal 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all stop thinking you're unique.
All normal people have a need to "couple" and we are all frustrated by it, whether male or female, gay straight or other we all have a hard time finding the right person and keeping the relationship alive once we do.
I know that bars are only good for meeting drunks. It seems that most of the web sites are about sex much more than dating. I think your best bet (and mine) is to get involved in the gay community...if you have a GLB Community Center near you contact them, they will offer some activities and have connection to all the other groups in town.
Even in my smaller Midwestern town there are things as diverse as gay:
Bowling
3-4 different dinner groups
Volleyball
Biking
Euchre
Square dancing
Bears (woof)
Political (Democrat and Repugnant Parties)
and a bunch of others.
By being involved in something you care about and enjoy you're going to meet other guys who at least have that one thing in common.
2006-12-17 01:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On gay.com there's a love & relationships channel that have the same beliefs you do. You could always try there.
But I personally think it's silly to delay sex for too long. You might not like hearing that but men get to know each other preciesly by having sex with each other. You can find out a lot about a person. Sometimes you have to experience to know if a guy is really the right one or not.
I say we all should have our cake and eat it too. Romantic afflictions and hot sex. =)
2006-12-16 05:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
there are lots of gay and bi websites out there that have chat forums and personal ads.. do a search and get into these online communities. chat with people and develop friendships, and eventually you may come across someone you'd like to meet up with in person, and then you can take it from there.
i can totally relate your problems though. .i just officially realized that i am bi about a week ago.. and i have signed up for some bi communities.. and already, i've gotten more offers for sex from men than all other offers combined the rest of my life before i was bi!
2006-12-16 16:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, and you are not alone. Join the club, we meet every Sunday at the Neyland Stadium. :)
2006-12-16 05:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kedar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No suggestions...but just when you least expect it--it happens..happened to me in my mid thirties (as a matter of fact a lot of couples I know got together in their 30's).
2006-12-16 05:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not sure, but if you figure it out, please let me know!
2006-12-16 10:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by ramman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋