Hi, I've been married to my wife for 20 yrs now. We've had a lack luster sex life all our marriage. However, I've gotten used to it and made up for the lack with porn. No cyber or anything, just pictures and stories to masterbate. Anyway, my wife has caught me on several occassions and she says because of that she's fallen out of love with me. I think she still loves me, but doesn't respect or like me. She was abused when she was younger that's part of the problem, I've adapted to it and that's one of the reason our sex is not so great. Well she's changed a lot in the last couple of years, I've been supporting her through school and she's become indepedent. She's also lost about 60 pounds and looks about 10 years younger then she is now. I don't know what to do, like I said I still love her and would like to keep being married. She seems upset when we talk divorce, but we haven't been togethor in over a year, even after I came back from Afghanistan. What do you think?
2006-12-15 20:42:30 · 4 answers · asked by MB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need two people to make a marriage work...and they both have to be working as a team...you can't do it alone.
There is no reason to continue here...if things were going to change for the better, it would have happened by now, 20 years is enough of an investment...if it's not working by now, it's time for a change. From the sound of it, pretty much nothing will change on your part if you divorce, you don't really have a marriage now, so there is no point in trying to prolong the struggle.
2006-12-15 22:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a marriage counseling so you cant find out if you can save this marriage i can tell you its hard to have a one side married i was in mine for 13 years and i give up and walk out good luck
2006-12-16 05:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her abt the early days of ur marriage,
make her feel u both can love each other the same way .
always love her ,keep ur self patient,
if nothing works meet amarriage counseller.
2006-12-16 05:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by shwetha sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes losing weight so that she can find someone else. thats what a lot of girls do. Or she already has been cheating...
2006-12-16 05:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋