i have best friend and he also care of me but i dont want to hurt him because my husband is not like we're to close but i dont know how to say that because i know he's very takecare of me and we are to be best friend it's very long time 25 years he's my litle kindegarten friend and i think we're realy just a friend but my husband is not believed if somebody can help me for some ideas for my problem ????????thanks
2006-12-15 20:22:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough situation. In many cases, people usually have to choose between their significant other and friends of the opposite (or same) sex. Some can make it work, but based on the fact that your husband is already jealous, this seems to be a case where you can't have both. Because you are currently married, your first priority should be to protecting and preserving your relationship with your husband. This doesn't mean that you have to entirely end your friendship with your best friend, but you should probably limit your activities together (particularly the exclusive ones)
What you probably should do is talk with your husband about what he's comfortable with when it comes to the opposite sex, and share with him what you're comfortable with. The 2 of you need to understand & respect each others' limitations and come to agreements about what is acceptable & what isn't.
Regarding your friend from kindergarten--would he be understanding if you told him the 2 of you needed to be a little more casual?? If he respects you and your marriage, he should be able to handle this (because you chose to marry your husband and not him).
2006-12-15 20:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Banana_cakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see dear as u said ur married now .. so ur first priority should be towards ur husband and second towards ur frnd. And i think u can continue both the relationship if its Rite ( means ur friendship). and why ur so scared when u haven't done anything wrong and nothing is in ur mind. Just be True wid ur hubby and make a balance between both the relationship. Rest u have to decide which one is important for u. Best of luck .
2006-12-16 04:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by SUNNY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friend that your husband doesn't like the two of you hanging out togethr alone without him. or talking all the timeon the phone or whatever you are doing that has upset your husband.
if your friend is a real friend and is not trying to get with you he should understand.
2006-12-16 04:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by kdf_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky but it's been in my experience you just have to take a deep breath and say bluntly no matter if it hurts their feelings you can apologize after as long as you get the point across.
2006-12-16 04:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Connie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you took a vow of marriage to your
husband. He should be the " Only one".
Let your friend know that your husband needs to
feel he is.
Find your friend a woman.
2006-12-16 04:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is your close friend... and tell your kindergarten friend to find other friend to hang out with. If not, then
you're going to lose your husband.
2006-12-16 04:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is jealous.Is he this way with other people too?If so,it may be help with the husband that you need,but I don't know,maybe different cultures do diff, things.Good luck.
2006-12-16 04:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the reason it might be..by saying No always hurt.
2006-12-16 06:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to say no even though it hurts.
2006-12-16 04:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by dawnsdad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your married then it should be easy to say no to your friend anyway what are you saying no for?
2006-12-16 04:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by megan p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋