We're on our very early 20's . Weve got the Jack and Ennis relationship.. im more like Jack and he's ennis. You know brokeback. As close to the movie as it gets, minus the Cowboy theme, more like lifelong straight friends. He had to move away to Europe for Work, I was going to go with him to start out something, but I got accepted to gradschool and i decided to stay behind for two years. Ive never felt anything so deep, meanigful and passionate in my life. More so that any girlfriends that i have. It's true manly love. Every day, life is like hell for me... I feel like gave up my heart for my future.. We keep in contact everyday through email, and phonecalls. Still im worried that him and I being separated for a long time would change things. He and I are not queer, and not into the queer lifestyle. He's the only guy that ill ever love. I dont know, sometimes i feel like jumping on the next flight to Europe.
Any comments?
2006-12-15 20:07:36 · 15 answers · asked by Kyle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why are all these answers about ME being Gay??? Geez.... I didnt ask for that.. MY QUESTION WAS.. DID I CHOOSE THE RIGHT PATH???????????????????? IF YOU'RE GAY, GOOD FOR YOU.. ITS YOUR BUSINESS, I DONT HAVE TO BE GAY...
2006-12-15 20:13:02 · update #1
Follow your heart. Love calls for impulsive actions...they are always right.
2006-12-15 20:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. If you care about eachother as much as all that, then that won't go away. You'd also start resenting eachother if you held yourselves back for your friendship. You could always finish gradschool, and then when you're more employable, check out job opportunities where he is. Definitely don't let yourself drift away though. Call, and maybe visit once in a while. Then you could see eachother in a different environment, and then you can see if things are the same before you do anything crazy like move.
2006-12-15 20:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute....
you say you are not queer, and yet you:
1) Answer a question that was addressed to gay men (the one about brokeback mountain - it says at the start of the post that he wanted perspectives of gay men, and you anwered it)
2)say you made love to this guy and that it felt like giving 110% of your love (in one of your other posts about brokeback mountain)
3)you compare you and your friend to jack & ennis....well....um...news for you: they were homos
4)you keep talking about this "manly" love. well honey wahatever it is, you love this guy. you are in denial
I agree with Sierra C
2006-12-15 20:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by MrRomeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just stay where you are and keep thinking about it. Eventually things will happen and unfold as they should without forcing it. Also, the longer you are patient, the more evident your feelings become. It would suck to go out there and feel suddenly confused, rather than deliberately thinking out what you want and knowing when you got there it was what you wanted no matter what happened.
A good way to live is, let whatever happens happen.
2006-12-15 20:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing fine. You make it sound as though you've chosen a path "away from him", but it sounds like you're keeping in contact. Just don't let the relationship die, eh? Keep it alive, go visit him when you can, but don't sacrifice your own life to be with him, unless he is willing to meet you halfway. Otherwise, you'll end up resentful, no matter how hard you try not to be.
Keep faith, and tell him how you're feeling! Good luck.
2006-12-15 21:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you so should go after him.....that would be so romantic...you dont want to end up like the guys from brockeback mountain do u? i think not. sometimes waiting to long and not taking action is not the best alternative.these is gonna sound so cheesy but loves is all that matters. so my advice is to go afer him :) dont let him get away he might be 'the one'. people take to much time to think things over and end up making wrong decisions and then live their life in regrets, in 'what ifs' you dont want to do that. sometimes u just have to go for it, great people are so hard to find...its totally up to u
this is my advice :) take it or leave it
ps: im sure its easier said than done but u should give it a try :)
2006-12-16 00:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by sexyashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, the way you explained it sounds totally gay. Next time try saying "brotherly love". But anyways, you need to think about your own life and your own goals regardless of what your friend is doing. As unconditional as family love gets, members still part ways too lead their own life. It's just part of life.
2006-12-15 20:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Low Key 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not gay why did you post in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered. And believe me sweetie, no straight man would ever even admit that he saw broke back mountain; let alone claim the specific roles of the characters. Be honest with yourself and at least you can have comfort in the fact that you are gay, going to hell, but still gay.
2006-12-15 20:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by act as if 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's worth taking risks for true love. Accept the truth -- that you are gay -- and follow him. Even if it doesn't work, it will be an experience you are likely to treasure.
2006-12-15 20:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Freddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like a guy then you are Gay. Get out know while you still can cause all its gonna get ya is a trip to hell. Good luck
and God bless
2006-12-15 20:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Catie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋