Is world of Warcraft destroying your relationship with a loved one?

Question

Okay so i thought it be nice if my boyfriend played world of warcraft and all, because that would mean he be at home more and able to help out with our baby. But now it has completley overtaken his life. he goes to work, comes home kisses both of us. and then off to the computer, up til 4 am.. goes to bed and wakes at 6 am.. leaves for work and same over and over and over... and its like even after sex its like i gotta get on World of Warcraft. He never wants to spend time together. It takes a lot of bitching and nagging just to get him off for an hour or so, so he would watcha movie with me.
How can i get my guy to understand he is pushing me further and further away...? What should i do about him not wanting much time with me anymore? should i be worried?

Help me

Answer 1

Warcraft and other games from Blizzard can be REALLY addictive. I used to play Diablo at night without looking at the clock before I realized the sun would be rising! To help him get out of this and start spending more time with you, he has to learn how to budget his time. I'd suggest the following:

1) Make plans for something specific, and for a specific time. You could make restaurant reservations, go see a particular movie at a particular time, etc. I know this would mean having to get a baby sitter, but if tried doing something in the house there's always the chance that he'd wander back to the computer "just for a few minutes". And by having a specific time established, this will force him to be out of the house, and not procrastinate as much for getting ready. DON'T mention Warcraft at all while you're doing all of this.

And don't nag, because if you nag, he'll want to go back to Warcraft to tune out the outside world. And no, you won't have to do this kind of scheduling each an every time you want to do something together. Just try it once; set up something that would force you two to be out of the house at a certain time.

2) I think what makes these games addicting is that they not only provide fantasy, but a sense of "accomplishment". If you can get him to channel that into something productive (remind him of his other hobbies, etc.) he might stop his Warcraft purging.

Good luck

Answer 2

Computer game addiction, especially to games like WoW, is so common. There is a Yahoo group for "WoW widows." They might have some good suggestions.

I have some severe suggestions that would involve removing all access to WoW, but that would probably just piss him off so it's not the first step.

First, have you tried to talk to him about this yet? I know it's hard because he heads straight to the computer, but maybe during one of those times you manage to nag him away. Talk to him about how you and the baby need his attention more than fictional characters online do. Gauge what step you should take next based on his reaction.

One method that works with most men is to Deny Sex. He wants to know why? You tell him. No sex until WoW playing is down to two hours a night. Seriously. Time him. He goes even a second over, nothing. He stays within the two hours well honey live it up and make it really worth while for him to continue to follow the two hour rule! :)

Reinstitute date night. Pick one night a week where you two Have to go out. Even if you can't get a sitter it sounds like the baby is still young enough to take places. Obviously it won't be a restaurant like Chez Romantique. :) But anyplace away from computer access is good.

If he can't cut his playing time by at least half he seriously has a problem and you may have to do more drastic things to get him back from that fantasy world. Good luck to you! I know what it's like to have a boyfriend who is obsessed with his online community.

Answer 3

I've been in love with Blizzard games since I was 14 years old. I remember starting with Starcraft, moving onto Diablo, then finally finding my true love and passion, World of Warcraft. I've been absolutely addicted to this game for the past few years now. It's such a beautiful, mysterious, but often complex and complicated world of mystery and intrigue. I have, at many times, found myself where you may be now... confused or stumped in some way- and not knowing exactly where to turn or what to do. Or maybe just unsure of how to advance, or reach the next level in my gaming experience. These road-blocks ranged from very simple, basic, or otherwise minor problems to complicated and complex issues. Both technical and in-game. I did and still do find GREAT help, on ANYTHING WoW related, within the infamous Zygor guides at http://www.zygorguides.pcti-system.com .. These guides are like the Bible of WoW, the Encyclopedia Britannica for anything World of Warcraft. My go-to guide for just about anything and everything. And unlike others, these guides are integrated IN-GAME. Listed below are some of the things that currently come to mind:

-1-90 In-Game Leveling and Loremaster Guide
-Dailies and Events Guide
-Dungeon and Gear Guide
-Professions and Achievements Guide
-Pets and Mounts Guide
-Titles, Reputation, and Macros Guide

...The list goes on and on.

Anyways, I hope I was of some help to you. Above all, my greatest recommendation to you from personal experience, is DON'T FORGET that there is still a REAL world out there! Lol. The biggest problem for me that I've come across is my absolute addiction to this game. Like many others out there, WoW has taken over much of my life and free-time. Proceed with caution! FOR THE HORDE! :P

Answer 4

Absolutely, this can be an obsession. It's an escape from reality where you can be a powerful level 60 paladin. In an Arkansas case, a three-year old child died in a parked car while her mother allegedly played a MMOG (massively multiplayer online game... like Warcraft) inside a house.

Solutions? Tell him it's a MAJOR concern that affects the marriage. Having him see a mental-health professional will help. Depression or anxiety disorders can occur too.

Answer 5

As a now professional gamer, and leader/co-founder of one of the current top ranking guilds on WoW, I can attest to what that guy said about the Zygor guides from that website http://www.zygorguides.pcti-system.com .. When I first started using them, is when I started taking my WoW gaming to a whole new level. I wouldn't be where I am today without them. As advanced as I am now, I still use them as an awesome reference/aid. Highly recommended if you're serious about being an accomplished WoW gamer, or just a newb looking to quickly learn the ropes and advance. On a side note, I am looking forward to the Warlords of Draenor expansion coming in November, and the updated guide to go along with it. Should be epic.

Answer 6

Dont try to compete with it eventually he will burn himself out on it i play it myself and get to the point i need brakes that i dont want to play at all. That or go in and set the parental controls on the account so it shut off after he has been on for a certain amount time or cant play during certain hours that blizzard put in to keep kids from playing when parents said no. You might also try playing it with him I know alot of couples that have fun playing together.

Answer 7

Talk to him. Tell him this is isnt going to if he continues and he needs to stop. He should just quit. Talk to him you need to. Or you could be a lil sneaky and cut the internet off for alittle bit (week or so) if he isnt a wiz at computers.


I hope this all works out

Best of luck to you!

Answer 8

He'll get bored with it eventually and come back down to earth. I play a lot, but so does my hubby, when he's home. My 2 yr old granddaughter wants to play it now, lol. I made her a char and she can make her run and jump and fight, but she can't make her loot. If you have another comp, get another acct and play with him when you can. I enjoy teaming up with my hubby and son, we have a good time.

Answer 9

no longer a loved one, no. yet there are 2 adult males in my section that are continually speaking about it contained in the dice next to mine & I HATE it. i comprehend extra about gaming than I EVER had to attraction to close. And the worst area of it truly is, is they both make lots extra money than I do, yet a minimum of between the receives actual upset if I are available in a jiffy overdue!

Answer 10

It ruined my own life.

Ask him to only do one quest/instance/raid a day, and try to slowly pry him away from it.