So, there's this girl that was feeling me, but I kind of let her know I didn't date anyone with kids. But then I got to know her, and now I want to date her, and get to know her child. The thing is I don't know if she still wants to date me because she acts like it sometimes and then sometimes she doesn't but it could just be that she doesn't want to put her heart out there again when I already told her that I didn't date mothers. I don't think she has any idea that I want to date her now. I want to ask her if she still wants to date but I don't want to look stupid for for contradicitng myself for now wanting to date someone with kids. So, how can I ask her if she's still interested in a very subtle way without asctually asking in those words?
2006-12-15 19:27:48 · 7 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't you think you should just be direct? You know, these kinds of "head games" are what doom relationships from the beginning. So you had a change of heart, you changed you mind. Tell her. Will you appear a little vulnerable? Maybe contradictory? Sure. So what? Maybe she'll find it sexy that you allowed yourself to be vulnerable and appear stupid. Or maybe she'll laugh you out of the room. You must decide if the risk is worth it.
Because if you're more concerned about appearing stupid than forming a relationship, then you are NOT ready for a relationship.
Don't mean to be harsh, but strong relationships are built on honesty. Be direct. Tell her exactly what you told us.
2006-12-15 19:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the situation totally safe, a date but not a date. Like - Hey, I'm starving, lets go grab something to eat. Or, hey, I saw this really kool thing for kids and I thought of you and your child, want to go check it out? Go as friends first, leave the preesure of a date off and then use the time together to be honest about your feelings.
2006-12-15 20:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be really really subtle. Try winking, but not AT them...wink at every 3rd person you meet other than the one.
Then wear mismatched socks...the symbolism is bound to get her attention.
For no apparent reason, sing old Smothers Brothers songs...that'll get her!!!!
2006-12-17 01:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy and believe me in case you looked desperate, a super type of the time we does no longer be conscious and in maximum situations no longer care. yet whilst your in simple terms attempting to dangle out in simple terms ask him to pass get some lunch after type sometime. super dangle out and not a date because of the fact it would appear as if a spur of the 2d element after type.
2016-10-05 09:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like to go get some coffie sometime.
2006-12-15 19:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Illegals Are S*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. It is okay to have a change of heart. Many of us do in life. God works that way..........:-)
Best wishes to you.....may you be suprised and happy.
2006-12-15 19:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by karen i 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask them.
Just tell them, "meet me here".
2006-12-15 20:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by chrisj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋