How can you be positive and not let people with drama get to you? When everything halts in silence with people you used to love and trust, broken in anguish and very much hurt due to false accusations, what do you do to stay positive and be productive rather than a reclusive blob that dwells in pain? Also, how do you void out the knowledge that they are talking about you and just not care about that? If they don't care to be friends with you but you very much wish they were, how do you say you deserve better and just not care? What is the best remediation during times of confusion about the situation when you know you can't talk about all this because its more drama you don't want? How do you just forget and accept things as they are and just be satisfied?
2006-12-15 19:16:21 · 5 answers · asked by kowalley 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You've just got to learn to "live and let live." Easier said than to actually practice. We all struggle with this and it is hard to accept that we aren't in the "drivers seat" when it comes to controlling people or how they treat us. All we can do is accept others and how we react to events and circumstances. Here's a selection from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous called the acceptance reading:
"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation-- some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.
And of course, the "serenity prayer" helps as well:
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
2006-12-15 19:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to love yourself and you will be happy.You make better friends when you are happy.Here is an exercise that you have to do on a daily basis.
Smile at three strangers very day
compliment three people
thank three people
don't say anything negative about anyone and if you have to coat it with honey and all things sweet
Don't think of anyhting negative about yourself instead take this moment as a learning experience and always believe that you will figure out a solution and everything will go back to normal although it might take sometime
2006-12-16 03:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that God will NEVER do anything to hurt you! You're probably going through all this so that you can be prepared in the future to take on almost anything! Keep your head up and no for sure that there's always one person who wants the best for you.......yourself! So,all the best honey!
2006-12-16 03:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what works for me the most is when i dwell on god and i mean a constant dwell. knowing that the peace and love that i experience with him is all that really matters in the end.
2006-12-16 03:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?i realy couldnt understand most of words
2006-12-16 03:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋