Can someone explain why? Most women work nowadays so it's women's work really doesn't explain it anymore. I thnk it's because most men don't know how. Is this true?
2006-12-15 19:11:55 · 20 answers · asked by uknowme 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Brianade, you're showing me I'm right!! Lol.
2006-12-15 19:21:55 · update #1
2 things. One he was a momma's boy and I divorced him. I did go on strike and during our proceedings he had the nerve to come up to me and say you don't even clean the house. I guess he forgot I was leaving. I see most men aren't even touching this question.
2006-12-15 19:26:46 · update #2
Ladies, let it out, get it off your chest that's what we're here for. And when your done sit down and relax 'cause I know you work too hard.
2006-12-15 19:28:30 · update #3
You can't justify this by saying you work hard. I work in a predominantlly male field too. I still come home clean do laundry shop. 'Women don't have the luxury of saying I'm tired. so now what's your excuse?
2006-12-15 20:29:28 · update #4
It could be true, if their mother's never had them help her out when they were growing up. I just think that they are lazy and if they have a woman around who will do it, why should they. It sucks! I think it should be a 50-50 split if both parties work. But you know, we women will live longer, because we are active and not sitting drinking beer in front of the TV most nights.
2006-12-15 19:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What? womens work! In my house i do most everything, what i dont do i contract out and have someone else do.
That is because i am single and have 3 dogs. I dont believe in the womens work theory, it nvr existed and some ppl refuse to believe that. When one income worked and could support a family of 6 then yeah, someone stayed at home.
I know how to do everything around my house. I cook, i clean, I do laundry, I cut the grass, Basically i do everything becuase no else is going to.
2006-12-16 06:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by quikone2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about his upbringing. It has been Mummy's duty picking up the laundry, tidying up his room and etc. Sometimes I feel that Mummy's out there should take the initiatives to instil the need for boys at an early age to carry out certain chores as a routine.I am a young mother and am training my boy in doing housework. I am trying to get the message across to him that both men and women should share the responsibilities for work around the house. Wish me luck!!
2006-12-16 05:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by syain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with that painfully dude- The ones that do not clean are selfish because when you are in a partnership and actually care about the person you are with, when they say they are tired, or work 60 hours a week, the other person chips in and does alittle work to make things go smother for everyone. If there are no straight men out there that feel that way, then I am screwed cause I already married a selfish man, learned my lesson, will I have to have a sex change to be able to date a gay man? SAAAAAD
2006-12-16 03:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the man. Here's what I came up with:
Momma's Boy = He will never clean anything, EVER
Most Middle Class Men = He has moderate cleaning skills and will do a few things around the house
Richie Rich = The house will always be spotless but you can guarantee he paid someone to do it
No Income = NO cleaning, NO way!
2006-12-16 03:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by rchl782 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I hate cleaning too. I guess I am the exception to the rule because my husband bugs me about cleaning all the time. I personally think if you feel that strongly about cleaning and can afford it, just pay someone else to do it. When you are working hard and doing so much, life is too short to spend the little free time you have doing something you don't like.
To the people that say I am selfish, I think its just a selfish to expect someone do what you want instead of what they want. You want to clean, he doesn't. If he cleans, he is sacrificing. If you clean, you are sacrificing. I'm not sure how selfishness factors into it. Either way someone is doing what they don't want to do. Why is it selfish if you feel more strongly about it and thus are the one that sacrifices?
Anyway, I definitely am a believer in paying people to clean when you can afford it and are working long hours.
2006-12-16 04:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I AM A WOMAN, AND I HAVE TO TAKE UP FOR SOME OF THE MEN OUT THERE. not all men are like that....yes, alot are, but i have to say that i am one of the lucky ones who found a man that will clean....even though the only things he will cook is something that can be thrown into the microwave, but my man cleans everyday, does laundry, and helps alot with the baby, not to mention takes the time to get me something to drink. so dont ask why do men never help around the house....ask why does YOUR man never help around the house!
2006-12-16 04:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would like to see a woman go to work and do Manuel labor every day and see how they would react on come home and see if they even have the slit est strength to do house work.Alot of men have real hard jobs where a woman won't even think about doing. I'm in the construction filed and I really don't see any women there cuzz they can't Handel it. I think thats kind of funny.
2006-12-16 04:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Casper77mc 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My Husband does help a bit, Only a bit lol..There are times when i come home form work and he's made supper it maybe only pot pies but he did make something..As far as house work thats my dept and i like to clean my house my way,I prefer to clean and do laundry myself, Not that he can't its just i like to do it..But he does help when i ask..
2006-12-16 04:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg you should read a blog entry I did about ten things that would make my life simpler...lol...one of them was if I didn't have to remind my husband to take out the trash-ever. Okay the trash goes out EVERY week, same day...I know it and so I remind him(sometimes it's just HIS TURN OK)...but...he will forget...he'll get all undressed, and into bed, and I will say-Did you take out the trash? lol....Another was if someone besides me would wash the bath towels-everybody uses them, but I am the ONLY one who washes them and puts them away! grrrrrr...and then...the darn TOILET PAPER ROLL...Why oh why am I the only one who puts the new roll on there??? I swear sometimes I want to just use what I need and put the roll back in the cabinet so THEY have to get it out!
When my husband and I first got together...I was the one working-and he was staying home. I would then come home, and find that sometimes he would do 'some' dishes. I would still have to cook, clean, do the laundry(and take out the darn trash lol) ggeeeeezzz. I put away his clothes(he has NEVER put away mine)....or washed the kids clothes or put those away. He actually makes a bigger mess for me and I complain about it all the time and tell him to stop bringing home stuff we don't need! So-we finally got a dishwasher not long ago..and still-the only things he'll do now, is maybe load the dishwasher-and forget to start the darn thing! He will not pick up and bag soda bottles-for us to recycle. WHEN he cooks-he leaves all the boxes(cuz he can't cook from scratch u know)..he leaves the boxes everywhere, instead of putting those in the recycle box. Heck, I just found that the last things I HANDED him to put in the recycle box, he simply put on the back porch! grrrrrrr....if he gets hot, he will take off his shirt...and I find them laying all over the livingroom! He only does his laundry when he runs out! I used to do his laundry..but I figure...crap-I have enough to do already & he's a big boy-he can do it himself-I'm not the one wearing his dirty gray colored underwear & socks(cuz he doesn't bleach or separate his whites lol) Then, he will leave his clothes in the damn dryer-so that I have to take them out. I also am nice and hang them up, or fold them and put them away. He has never once hung up or put my clothes away! I don't like him washing the dishes-although it's 'nice' of him(thank god we have a dishwasher now), because the pans always had a grease film-food was still on some things(gross)...so I'd end up having to re-wash them anyways! He will walk over something-instead of picking it up off the floor. He will throw MORE stuff in the trash can when it's overflowing, instead of taking the trash out to the trash can! We are total opposites when it comes to this stuff-and it really gets to me after a while.
I don't believe it's because a guy 'doesn't know how'. Some guys I've been with are really neat and tidy. My last boyfriend used to fold his whitey-tighties lol...My husband says his mom used to make him clean up their house and do dishes as chores(I can't imagine lol). He never puts anything back where it goes either!
The car he drives looks like he's hauling around a junkyard in it. Just tonight we took that car..and when we stopped at the gas station-I emptied his loaded ashtray..and then grabbed all the mcdonalds bags...and whatever else garbage-wise that was on the passenger floor, because I didn't want to have to put my feet on that! GRRRRR...lmao....
I have to say though-that when I'm ticked he will get off his butt-and 'help'. So, I start vaccuuming one room and he will finish the rest. If I start cooking, he'll load the dishwasher sometimes. But..those are the only two things he does. I have been complaining for him to get his JUNK off the front porch, organize the shed that he screwed up after I organized it sooo nicely...and all the junk he has laying all over the backyard and around outside. I feel like I've been invaded by a junk collector! darn packrat!
Alot of guys will tell you that they 'expect' the woman to do all the housework, especially if she is the one at home, and he is working. Right now, this is my case-I stay home and he works. Only I handle ALL the bills too. My girlfriend and I go on about how BORING it gets to do housework-day in and day out. We don't want to ALWAYS have to clean, and be the only one cooking and cleaning day in and day out. When I was the one working though-I was still doing everything as if I was still SINGLE. All the housework, laundry, and cooking....and mowing the lawn and taking out the trash....at least I didn't have to do my own tune-ups on my car anymore...lol...
okay....enough about that...to the men who sit on their butt's-if we have to do all this-it better be the other way around in the bedroom-OUR TURN TO RECEIVE LOL...while YOU work YOUR 'butts' OFF lol....
2006-12-16 04:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋