What I can do? He went to the UK for his studies, and I live in Spain, he wants us to get married. He seems highly-interested sex matters and keeps asking for me to join him in the UK. Sense I know him very much (he is an old friend), I am torn between accepting his offer and going with him after we get married.
But I am afraid that once he is done with me (got what he needs) that he will abandon me for another woman, sense his decision will be solely based on lust and affection what can I do? Shall I marry him or just quit the whole thing? He seems over interested in sex matters and just interested in my "beauty".
Help people, I need your advise (specially women).
Thanks
2006-12-15 19:03:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he really is just interested in your beauty and if u do something with him b4 ur marriage then it will be very easy 4 him to throw u out and even after ur marriage he can divorce u in a giffy after he has his needs satisfied and go 4 a 2nd woman so i'll advice u dump him and move on with a guy who loves ur heart and not ur body ok best of luck!
2006-12-15 19:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by tiya_ahuja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already no what to do . What is he doing around women that want sex from him.Sounds like your fiancee is being a bad boy with the women .The best thing you can do is forget about him because this man will brake your heart and leave you bitter toward other men.Their are a few good men still out there for you. What ever you do don't listen to your heart listen to your head you will live a happy er life.Remember beauty doesn't last forever when that goes so does the sex then your man.
2006-12-15 20:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no secret. Men love sex! It's almost as if they need it. Him saying that he is fighting off women for you is total bull. It's his attempt to get you to jump into bed with him. Simply play along and tease him a little so he thinks he will get it soon and all will be well. Or tell him that the wait will be well worth it. Don't forget, lust and passion are major components to a relationship. Be worried when he DOESNT want to have sex with you. About moving to the UK with him, that is all on you and what you want. I'd say you visit the UK and try it on for size and if you don't like it, then let him know how you feel and return back to spain.
2006-12-15 19:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Running Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut instincts about this whole situation. If he truly loves you he will wait or find some other way to make it where you can both be together.
I think your gut instincts are steering you in the right direction, to be skeptical of him, if he is mostly interested in your beauty and not you as a person, then I think you have your answer already.
His conditions or love are very conditional, is that what you want or think you deserve? I am sure you deserve more and I think your gut instinct is telling you the same thing. If you really care about him, test his love for you. See if he will wait, take a stand.
2006-12-15 19:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if a relationship is based on beauty and lust, it is immature, and has no way of lasting. as beauty does fade, and lust looses it's luster after awhile, and he seems like the type who would move on once he gets tired of u. relationships are alot more than how someone looks, and lust, they are suppose to be about caring for the other, and seeing them realiaze their dreams, and helping them through life. u may go with him, only to be hurt later on, based on what he considers important in a relationship. sex is fine, but what happens when the honeymoon phase is over? aqnd u grow older and aren't as young and beautiful as u are now, will he leave u for someone sexier and prettier?
2006-12-15 23:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say he is trying to use sex as a tool to get you to sleep with him.He is using the others as an excuse to make you feel jealous so you will do anything to keep him.Tell him point blank no and let see how fast he comes back when the other woman say no too.Sounds like a real player.I would dump him like a cheap suit.
2006-12-15 22:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Louis K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to throw up the fact that he is fighting off sex with other women just for you, he is trying to throw the guilt trip on you and you need to just cut him lose because he is playing games.
2006-12-15 19:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is playing games with you. Making it seem like if you dont have sex with him he can easily find someone else who will. You shouldnt sleep with him unless you are ready...no matter what he says. If he loves you he wont care if he has to wait
2006-12-15 19:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have thoughts of him leaving you for someone else and cant trust him to be with only you, then you should not marry him. trust has alot to do with a good marrage and if you cant trust the one you are married to then u can trust no one.
2006-12-15 19:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sleep on my side, and I rest them beside my head,on and under my pillow.
2016-03-29 09:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋