2006-12-15 18:38:02 · 24 answers · asked by romi 72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello!
I don't think the other's that answered took your question quite the right way. I may have though. Your use of the word "hot" may have been the reason why. I don't think you were referring to her looks.
Did you mean, not a good sexual partner? OR did you mean, doesn't have any interest in sex, love making?
Before you think of the looking elsewhere...consider this.
You say she is a good spouse, so you have something worth hanging onto, your marriage.
Whether she's not knowledgable about sex, or lacks interest,
you need to have a sit down with her. Tell her how you feel and how troubling it is for you. Ask her how does she feel about things. Suggest counseling if need be. Move Heaven and Earth with your efforts, to, along with her, to improve matters, If you find that you have hit a silent, uncoopertive brick wall... then do everything that you can to hold whats good about your marriage together... and then look for compatible company. But be very very careful on your choice(s). Use protection! Don't fall out of love with your wife and then fall in love with someone else.
I know what I am talking about. I got married when I was 29. It didn't take long to find out I entered a celibate marriage. I did EVERYTHING possible to try and change that as it broke my heart... it wasn't the sex as much as I missed the closeness.
I told him it was grounds for divorce and he said he wouldn't blame me if I did so. But I loved this man. In my 30's and 40's, I found solace elsewhere. I'm 55 now, We've been together 27 years and I still love him. So I say to you, yes, there can be good reason for being with another. But you can only do so if you try everything FIRST, to change your marital situation.
I so understand how you feel, as I have been there. I am there still! I hope you and your wife can work this out, so you don't have to look elsewhere.
I hope this was of some help!
I wish you good luck! :)
2006-12-15 19:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER. Will u tolerate that situation if ur spouse find u good but not hot n go to other person just like dat. No u won't. So better drop dis idea.
Marriage is just not having physical relationship but it the meeting point of 2 hearts, 2 souls into 1.
2006-12-15 20:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have the run of the mill, don't get married first and then you can do all the hot girls you want. Don't commit to one and then cheat on her. You had all the opportunity in the world to determine if she was hot enough for you BEFORE you got married so you assumed the risk of living a life with a spouse that's not exactly hot.
2006-12-15 18:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Trillian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are cruising for a bruising. The Hot issue is a societal construct. The question is, how can you get back to feeling the way you used to about your spouse? Look into what has changed, and then work to get back what you have lost, instead of risking losing it forever. Good luck!
2006-12-15 18:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Genius Squirrel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disgusting , why did u marry if u didn't like your spouse? Marriage is a commitment based an trust. Isn't it sad that your wife bore all the hardships to keep you happy and when she gets a li'l plump you leave her as if she's a showpiece. Shame on you !
2006-12-15 19:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of much less intercourse makes extra senses. a million) there is not any ingredient of having intercourse by using fact the cheating spouse is getting happy someplace else. 2) attractive feeling is now with yet somebody else, so the cheating spouse in all probability isn't sexually involved in his/her own spouse for the 2d. 3) intercourse isn't the acceptable precedence in a marriage (yet can't be with out), distinctly once you have some babies. So, it relatively is totally wide-spread to circulate with out intercourse for prolonged volume of time. So, it relatively is why each and every time your spouse became down intercourse persistently, then it relatively is sign of cheating.
2016-10-15 01:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by archuletta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not OK under any yardstick. Why can't you ponder over the situation that you are incapable of making it hot and spicy with your spouse? If she poses the same situation, what could be your view?
2006-12-15 19:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your spouse hot than you don't need Extramarital affairs. Now how to make her/him hot depends on you yourself don't expect peoples help for this job.
2006-12-15 18:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no ,extramarital affairs are not at all good.it s getting yourself out of apure relationship.it is cheating your partner and hurting his feelings.it is better to get out of your marital tie and then have a second relationship.one should not get married if he is not sure of continuing it honestly throughout his life.
2006-12-15 19:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Get a D I V O R C E and then find someone HOT.
2006-12-15 18:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋