I have a good relationship with my brother, but the one thing that really bothers me is that he teases his own son, who is 12 and overweight. While some of it might be good natured to him, i don't think my brother realizes how much he's affecting my nephew with this because just last night my nephew called me and told me that some of the remarks are hurtful but that he loves his dad and that he really doesn't want to cause conflict in the family. My nephew is afraid to say anything to him and he is kind of hesitant about me talking to my brother as well. But i love my nephew and i don't like seeing him hurt, he is a good kid. I was a little angry when my nephew first told me but i calmed down because i want to be smart about what i say and do in this situation. I'm going to take a day or so to really think about this. I'm not trying to tell my brother how to raise his kid, but i feel like i have to step in before this child is permanently damaged. Do you agree?
2006-12-15 18:14:10 · 7 answers · asked by Pancho 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
YES!
If you do that to a kid that will hurt them enturnily. talk to him ask him not to. We all hope to make him stop.
Hope this helps
2006-12-15 18:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by horse lover 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother definitely needs to be approached about it. However, if your parents are still living, discuss with them. There are times when it's hard to hear certain things from siblings and he may respect your parents more.
If not, make sure you never admonish him in front of others. Take him aside or with the child's mother and let him know that he what he is doing can cause permanent emotional and psychological damage to this child. If he has a problem with his son's weight, rather than belittle him, he should be spending more time with him doing physical activities. I'm sure your nephew would enjoy going for a swim or playing baseball or basketball with his father.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-16 02:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit down and talk to him about it. If you are close to him, I think it would be extremely beneficial to your nephew to discuss this with him(your brother). If your nephew has talked to you about how it bothers him, you can tell your brother how your nephew has expressed his feelings to you - but didn't really know how to approach your brother.
This could affect your nephew greatly in a negative way - so it's good you have seen this.
I really think things will go well especially since you are close.
2006-12-16 02:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mekayla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. It might make the kid feel better if he knows someone sides with him and there is someone they can go to for support. Also it might make the parents realize that they arent doing the right thing. Also you might make a good mediator for the child to voice his opinion to his father.
Sometimes people just need an outside opinion to see the error of their ways
2006-12-16 02:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u should try to tell this issue to your brother indirectly so that your relation do not affects. Just wait for the right moment and u can wait for few more days for it...
2006-12-16 02:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by @rrsu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes stop him or just tell him in a nice way that it is not nice and it could cause his son major physical and/or mental problems.
2006-12-16 02:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by addict for dramatic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i totally agree.
tell him to shut up. and that it never occured to him that all people are different. and if it persists, then idk what to tell you, sry. hope it wrks
2006-12-16 02:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋