Is it a common happenstance to be married five years and my spouse still has not added me to the title on our house. He earns two to three times more than I, insists on splitting everything down the middle and I'm the one to buy all the groceries...I dont even know if love is there anymore but I don't think I could afford being on my own. Any input?
2006-12-15 17:30:28 · 12 answers · asked by katypopaty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoa Hun you should be on that title and you should not be splitting everything down the middle you are a team. Talk to him and if that don't work Leave him! Sure it might be rough but you sound like a smart woman you can do it.
2006-12-15 17:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important question is do u love yr husband & would u like yr marriage to work .If the answer is yes than u need to sit down with you husband & sort out what is bothering u & how u feel about things.And everyone goes through phases in a marriage the important thing is to remember why u r in that relationship & try to work to make it work but the commotment has to be the same on both yr sides & not only from u
2006-12-15 17:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a state like I do it doesn't matter whether you're on the title--I'm not--but if we get a divorce I get half the house anyway! And if he makes that much more, you would get hefty alimony, if you ever decide you're tired of it. In the mean time, buy food only for you and label it all "MINE". Wash only your dishes, do only your laundry, and the kids if you have any, throw any dishes he uses and doesn't wash in the trash. Clean only your areas of the house! I'm not joking! I did that for a good long while until everyone figured out I was dead serious, and it took some doing, but it worked. If you're going to get treated like a roommate--act like one for awhile! And have a really good time doing it! :)
2006-12-15 18:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not right. As soon as I got married, my husband and I put all of our assets into one pile, and now what is his is mine and what is mine is his. (We didn't have much to begin with hehe.) It makes no sense to split things down the middle! It only creates problems and you may start to feel like things are not fair in your marriage. A spouse that insists on splitting everything down the middle has major issues! I would be scared to marry someone like that!
2006-12-15 17:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is, after all of the lovey-dovey stuff, a legal arrangement. State and federal governments encourage marriage because it helps stabilize society. Your husband is all about himself. There's no sharing, no love, no respect, and no stability here.
You've got to be young, so get out of this abusive relationship while you still are. I don't see anything about kids, so this would be a good time to make the break.
You made a mistake. The guy's a jerk. It happens.
2006-12-15 18:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first, what the hell is with splitting things? Put all your monies in a pot, pay the bills, put some away, whatever. There is no, mine and hers. Get you name on the title NOW. Time to get a backbone and stop putting up with this BS. Lets see him take care of the house and the kids, or better yet, just cut you a check for child support and alimony.... It's up to you to stand up for yourself.
2006-12-15 17:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that once, and it took me 9 years to get out of it. Step back and take a long look at your life, do you want to spend the rest of your life like this? Good luck to you!
2006-12-15 17:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by emtb9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Talk to him about the way you're feeling. Maybe he thinks everything is okay the way it is. Try saving some to the side just in case.
2006-12-15 17:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had that feeling sometimes but i been marry for two years.. YOu should talk to him about it...there is love.. but you should talk about it how you feel.. And make your relationship stronger if you told him your feeling...
make him understand... Tell him and talk to him... it doesn't matter who get pay more.. it what yougot and why he there.. And if you do not talk to him something in few years may end up bad.. SO hope your marriage last for very long time..(talk to him)
2006-12-15 18:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by babyg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me..I have lived a life of umm roommate like existence for 17 years...GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!! and find a person who can share rather than control...
2006-12-15 17:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by LostInTheCrowd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋