2006-12-15 17:12:20 · 13 answers · asked by novahustler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no quick way to get over a divorce... you will have things to remind you of that person for a long time after its all said and done. Good luck to you!
2006-12-15 17:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is the "drive-it-out-of-=my-mind" school which suggests you get another casual partner/partners immediately and screw your brains out. For some this might work.
Another approach is to recognize that you can't control how others act but you can control how you react. Recognize that you are the greatest person you know,that you are your own best friend and celebrate yourself for your own excellence. If your former partner couldn't understand how great you are, that's their problem. Every morning when you wake up sit on the edge of the bed, feel firmly planted on the ground and tell yourself that today you are going to celebrate how wonderful you are and that you know the day will be filled with learning opportunities. Then, as you go about your day, remind yourself you are filling your heart with new learning experiences and it is all joyful and wonderful. When you go to bed at night, again sit on the edge of the bed and take a moment to remind yourself about what a great day you just had...what you learned, what you enjoyed. When you are ready to sleep, set an intention to dream about your wonderful life and the absolutely spectacular new partner that you are going to meet. Then go to sleep and repeat the next day. Fill your life with the appreciation of all the beauty around you, listen to the birds singing, watch the clouds floating across the sky. And live, love and enjoy life. Your past marriage was a learning opportunity. Look at what you learned. Go forward with your life secure in the knowledge that you will always continue to learn. Enjoy the experience.
2006-12-16 01:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quickly get over a divorce. . . are you human? Basically, you are asking how to forget everything that at one time you put most or all of your effort into. I work with several men and women that I don't think will ever get over their divorces. maybe their situations are all different from yours. . . but, just try to look at it as though a new chapter in your life has opened and now only you are in control of your life. you make all the decisions. . . you are in control. Use this towards your new life. . . you've learned a few lessons . . . . so good luck
2006-12-16 01:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by FlaGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, and don't bother trying. Time heals all things, so trust that it will. Everyone of us moves at a different pace, so be ok with that for now. Get into counseling if you are not already. Hang out with your friends and set some goals to accomplish the things you always wanted to do but couldn't before. Your life is yours again. Make it the way you want, and then, before you know it, you'll be really happy. Avoid involved romantic relationships for the first year. Your're just asking for trouble! Trust me!
2006-12-16 01:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can get a quick divorce if u convince ur partner that mutual understanding would give both a peace of mind, freedom and breath of fresh air. Only by making ur partner understand this can u get a quick divorce.
2006-12-16 01:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by alka1 a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you really loved your wife? Then there is no quick way to get over the marriage. The memories you have were built over many days, weeks, months and years...so you can't just discard them like yesterday's trash! TIME IS THE HEALER OF ALL THINGS!!! you will need time and the support of family and friends to heal. Make sure you take care of yourself through this process and heal acknowledge the pain, don't tuck it away and not deal with it!
2006-12-16 01:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was a quicker way, but according to the research two years before you will be fully healed.
It was a little over 3 more me and I got remarried four years after my divorce.
Best of luck
2006-12-16 01:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how close you were at the time of the divorce and how bad the marriage was...
2006-12-16 01:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by LostInTheCrowd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fastest way is to move out of state, change your jobs and become a workaholic.
also depends on the years marriage, the longer you were married the longer it will take to get over it.
2006-12-16 01:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another partner! Rebound like never before.
2006-12-16 01:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋