My partner is at work during the day. He comes home plays with our son-our son goes to bed. He goes on the computer. Til 3 or 4 in the morning! Problem is the computer is in the bedroom. I get awoken by his teeth grindingly incessant goddamned taping on the goddamned keyboard and he is really p*ssing me off. I've told him over and over again that he is driving me crazy but he hasn't stopped yet! I can't move the computer yet otherwise I would and it isn't forever but if I don't get a decent nights sleep I am going to go really quite crazy!! Apart from the fact he spends NO time with me whatsoever I just want to sleep properly for one night. The only way to stop him is to go on it myself and then He's moody.And I still ain't getting any SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-15 17:10:43 · 20 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thought I'd add that he doesn't give much in the way of crap, he'd probably tell you that i was in charge, on this though he just won't listen. I've had screaming matches at him about it. I guess he just doesn't really care........
2006-12-15 17:19:01 · update #1
God crapsake that last bit is depressing. Seriously I'd like to clarify he isnt a control freak or anything evil. it's just this computer thing.
2006-12-15 17:24:04 · update #2
I have sat and told him exactly how and what he is doing to make me upset/angry.
2006-12-15 17:25:56 · update #3
Jesus he is not on crack, during the week he sleeps from 4ish am til 8am then is cranky cause hes tired and late for work.
2006-12-15 17:27:27 · update #4
Not porn, ironically enough it's goddamned yahoo answers and yahoo goddamned chat he's on. The reasn I' here now is cause he bloody woke me at 4 and I haven't been able to sleep as he peeved me off so much. He is now snoring his a55 off and I am on this bloody thing.
2006-12-15 17:30:07 · update #5
Get him a Laptop for Xmas
Or just have it out with him i would not put up with that crap he is selfish.
2006-12-15 17:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by deb_star_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not showing consideration for you or for his own health and well being. You need to have some time together, at least one or 2 nights a week and you agree how and when this will happen.
It is easy to become a computer widow and I am still not sure what he can be doing till 3-4 in the morning, is he chatting, playing or a computer programmer?
There needs to be a balance between the time he works, sleeps and is a partner.
2006-12-19 16:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by kenjinuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is you need your sleep. You need sleep and thats that. If he cant respect the fact that you need SLEEP than can you sleep in another room. set up another room with a bed and go to sleep there and tell him I am moving out because of the god damn computer and the fact I NEED SLEEP. Hopefully he might get the message. Men are twits sometimes it takes a few goes to get it through their thick heads. I remember I told my partner that I wanted life insurance in case something happened to him and then if we did not have insurance the children and I would be left desitute. So he fights and argues he hates insurance companies and we eventually got it but he argued and grizzled that I cancelled it. 6 months later he was talking to his mate and told me we should get life insurance!!!! What a moron. But men are like that and they realy need a few reminders before it sinks in. But actions speak louder than words - go to the spare bedroom or the couch until he realises that the computer at all hours is making you uupset because you need sleep. Good luck Oh and bye the way on the scale of things some people might see this situation as petty but the fact is you need your sleep> End of story and it is very serious and disrespectful for your husband not to listen to you.
2006-12-16 17:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a choice...
Move the computer or stop playing after a certain time.
If he won't listen to you...
Go in the Bios when the computer start and set a password for it. Make sure that you don't forget that password.
Set the password...both for the Bios and the operating system.
That way...he won't be able to start the computer without the password. Tell him you will remove the password after he moves the computer out of the bedroom.
2006-12-16 01:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your partner is being extremely inconsiderate and very rude. He obviously does not care about your feelings. You should stick up for yourself and be assertive. Unplug the computer and hide the plugs!!! Do not let this man rule you! He is getting away with this behaviour because you are allowing him to do so. Make it clear that he has to give and take. So what if he is moody, let him sulk. Im afraid I have to say that if he treats you like this, you are better off without him! Sounds like your relationship with him has broken down. Even if you get around to moving your computer, are you going to be able to put up with him ignoring you indefinately?
2006-12-16 01:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a partner, he's a control freak !!!!!
Why on earth are you with someone who is 'ssooooo' selfish.
Can't you see that he's pulling all the strings, or are you just so
down on yourself that you don't think you can get anyone better
than him.
If you have repeatedly asked him not to be on the computer every
night so you can get some sleep, but he's still doing it, does that not set off alarm bells in your head ?
This man has 'NO' respect for you at all, and that means he doesn't love you either.
Love and respect go hand in hand dearie, and he's a real
fine specimen of 'lack thereof'. Lacking concern for you..
2006-12-16 01:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually find in my own case that if I've tried the calm talking, and I've done the loud shouting, and the tears thing, if he still doesn't get it he never will! Some men just have a mental inability to comprehend how selfish they can be! He'll never change, so you have to :(
2006-12-16 02:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Honey W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried pouring a cup of water into the back of the thing, That should put it out of action for a while. For one night though, just sneak the fuse out of the plug and pretend its broken.
As for, is he trying to drive you mental, I think he's just an inconsiderate git and it's never even crossed he's mind he's doing any thing wrong
2006-12-16 01:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels that he lacks your attention. Why not try something to draw him off the PC. Too easy are answers like dump him or move the pc, and unfortunately, without judging the pair of you, we only have one side here. Maybe you both feel that the other pays no attention and so without positive action, the results can only be negative.
2006-12-16 01:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by inkblot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lend the PC to a mate for a few days, say it's an emergency...and you're not lying. Or...remove something so it's temporarily out of action.
2006-12-16 10:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would be more concerned about what he was looking at on his computer till 4am. He may be cheating or looking at porn! Maybe thats why he doesn;t care about your getting any sleep.
2006-12-16 01:27:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋