What does it mean when you dont want to have sex with your wife? You been married a long time (18 yrs) and you and your wife are just basiclly roomates. youve had alot of crap you both overcame and theirs alot of hurt on both parts. your wife tries to make occational moves on you but, you dont want to do it. 4 months worth of dont wanna do it. Why.
What would be your reasoning for this?
2006-12-15 16:54:13 · 11 answers · asked by Crissy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too much stress and after all of the problems it is hard to look at the spouse as a romantic interest. Relations are to be built on mutual respect and love is to be unconditional if marriages are to work. When a man is torn down by the person closest to him it is very hurtful though we may not admit it! It is hard to look at that woman as a romantic interest because the wall of protection has put distance between the two of you!
2006-12-15 16:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dre 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you've summed it up quite well, actually.
18 yrs of familiarity, roommate relationship, lots o' crap, emotional scars, hurt...yeah, I'd say that doesn't exactly add up to endless nights of life-changing sex, would you?
Let's face it, the old libido has peaked, descended, and taken up residence in the long, low valley of middle-age. So what? It's friendship and unconditional love that keeps us growing old together. Count your blessings, share a few hugs once in a while, tell each other that you love one another at least once every day, and enjoy what little time you have left together.
Life is an adventure. Drink it up.
2006-12-15 17:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy is Jason an idiot.
A lot of reasons- if you took the hottest girl on earth, and aged her 18 years, she ain't gonna be that hot. Plus the emotional crap can make you feel sick to be around the other person.
I'm not married. Now you know why.
2006-12-15 17:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The man feels like he can not control the things going on in his life.The one thing he can control is whether he has sex with his wife.What ever problems you say you have overcame/have not been resolved.With holding sex is a direct result of the hurt and pain he feels toward his wife.
2006-12-15 17:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by noga 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is in no way meant to be hurtful, but have you changed in any way in the last 8 months. Lost weight? Gained Weight? Changed your hair.
And why the hurt? Is this something that can/needs to be talked out? Counseling? Yes, it does work.
Best of Luck
2006-12-15 17:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....it could means he has someone else or STD or needs help from Viagra but he doesnt want to admit it. A lot of us guys are VISUALLY stimulated which means if you put on a lot of weight, he might be the type that wont get turned on.
Whatever it is, its time for one of those MELLOW talks. Best of luck
2006-12-15 16:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might be depressed, get him to see a doctor. Or maybe he is just stupid. Wish my wife would make some moves on me,.
2006-12-15 17:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Diddly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let go of the hurt it will make you sick. You got to find the love again. It's the breathe of life.
2006-12-15 16:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish that I could help you, but my own sex life has died too! I'm around the same amount of years.
2006-12-15 17:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't want to have sex with somebody who kepted betraying me.
2006-12-15 21:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋