I catch my husband checking out other woman.Is it ok to get angry?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say it, but all men - married or not - check out other women. It's in their genetic code, it can't really be stopped. Don't be angry, but make sure he just looks and doesn't touch. If he touches, THEN be angry. (See "Lorena Bobbitt" for more info re: angry). But hey, all's fair...if your husband can do it, you can do it. Find some cute guys on the street and check em' out! You're not dead!

Answer 2

My friends and I have very different opinions on this subject they say men shouldnt do it and they get angry if theirs do. For me I don't have a problem with it.

All the men that I know check out woman and I am sure if you are honest with yourself you notice those other woman too (sometimes BEFORE your man does). I know I have/do.

The point at which I believe its crossing a line and where I get angry is if they make comments comparing you to that other person.

Example: A half dressed very attractive woman walks down the street and my man takes a minute to soak in the view.. I just chuckle and let him have it.

Now if he was to soak it up and turn to me and say "Why can't you look like that? Or man if you have her legs/boobs whatever you'd be hot." I would not only be pissed but smack him to boot.

If your husband is doing that then you have ever right to be mad. If not the key factor to remember is that HE IS THERE WITH YOU... he is GOING HOME WITH YOU... he CHOOSE YOU and seeing other woman and having come home with you is not a threat but a compliment to say that he PICKED YOU again! Sometimes it can even spice your love life to have him notice other people. Cause the lust and the passion is then brought home to you. Its NOT a negative thing.

Try to change the way you see the situation.. you and he are an item and the other woman are just fleeting amusement. Where you have to worry is when he uses it against you or he doesnt come home.

In the end though I am sure it is harmless and you allowing him to have his moment will only strengthen your trust in each other.

Good Luck! :)

Answer 3

This just points out the problem with porn. Its addictive and like any other addiction, it calls for more. Face it honey even though those are actresses in porn they are real flesh and blood women. There are many women out there willing to show and do some of the same things he sees in porn, even if its just one time and Myspace is a good place to play and flirt and maybe even hook up for affairs at least for starters. Don't give up on your marriage, don't give up on him nor yourself. You brought up weight as though you don't feel as sexy as you used to. Then do something about it, not necessarily for him or your marriage but for yourself. Build yourself confidence back up. As far as the hubby goes, draw the line and let him know that you've allowed too much as it is. Absolutely NO meeting women online.

Answer 4

The only information we have is this statement. You do not say whether he has a history of chasing women or if he has been caught in of inappropriate behavior

. If this is an isolated incident, I really don't believe you have any thing to worry about. Furthermore I don't see a need to get angry with him about it. He isn't doing anything that any red blooded American male doesn't do it every day.

When you need to start worrying, is if he should start giving signs of infidelity, staying out late, getting mysterious phone calls, etc. etc. Now, you certainly have a right to be angry.

Answer 5

I think you should ask yourself why you're getting angry. So what if he looks at someone else? He chose to marry you, and go home to you every night. He is yours, and he obviously thinks you are better than some random hot chick. When my hubby looks at someone, I look too! I am not bisexual, I am just secure enough to know that I am attractive, and so are other women. Don't get mad at your man because you're insecure.

Answer 6

This is really a question about your level of self-esteem. Men and women will continue to look as long as they aren't blind. It's natural.

Are you confident enough in yourself, your husband, and marriage to know that looking is not the end of a marriage?

Answer 7

Of course, it's your right, but no one thing: it is in the nature of men to check out other women, to get attracted to other women. A smart man will only get attracted (obviously because he loves you more) but a stupid man will get attracted, and do something about it, meaning have an affair.

Now the question is: is your husband smart or stupid?

Answer 8

i think your over reacting, all men are going to look, it's our nature to look. don't mean a thing, just a look. My step mother always say when asked about this subject " the day he (my father) stops looking is the day she is going to bury him, cause he's either got no pulse or he's turned gay, and i would have to shot him" basically it comes down to he's looking at the menu, but as long as he don't order then don't worry about it, but if he does order then you have all the right in the world to get upset.

Answer 9

Only as long as you never notice a good looking guy ever again. Be real, we all do it. Looking doesnt mean anything. It doesnt mean that I would rather be with that guy. It means that I think he is hot. Lets be honest, how many men do you see and start "mentally doing" them?

Answer 10

So he looks, he's not dead yet is he? Why does his looking bother you? As long as you're the one he crawls into bed with looking isn't going to hurt. Or would you rather he be looking at other men?