I'm gay. I really like a guy at my school who I think is strait, but I don't really know. What should I do? What should I ask him? I'm really afraid that if he's strait, he will tell all of his friends that I'm gay, and I will be made fun of for the rest of the year. Thanks in advance.
2006-12-15 16:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Who is me L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Although I think he is most likely straight, I have good reason to believe he could be gay. He acts like it, and I overheard couple gay jokes directed at him. It's probably just wishful thinking on my part, however.
2006-12-15 17:16:31 · update #1
start a conversation with him and ask him questions like how he feel about gay people being able to marry or something like that it wont out you but you would get a good idea about his sexuality.
2006-12-15 17:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With people in this world like Mrs. Smarty Pants up there, I can see why you would be afraid of the consequences of him telling all of his friends that you're gay.
Do you have reasons to think he MIGHT be gay? A lot of times we can kinda sense if there's a mutual attraction. Of course, even if he is gay, it doesn't mean he's come to terms with his orientation yet.
I don't know what to tell you. I'm a lesbian with a long history of falling in love with straight women that I thought might be gay. And it really sucks. I don't advise you going that route with anyone who's orientation you're unsure of. It's caused me so much pain, that I'm now afraid to even have friendships with any woman that I don't know to be a lesbian, because I'm afraid of falling in love with them and then having to face the unfortunate fact that they're straight.
But enough about me. I think you should either ask him about his orientation or tell him you're gay and see how he reacts... then face the consequences. OR... forget about him unless you have some reason to think he's gay. Keep in mind that most of the world still identifies as straight.
2006-12-16 00:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by pooge0287 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right to be wary. There's every chance that he's not Gay, and you may find that you're "outed" before you're ready.
Try getting in touch with a school counselor to ask about the school's Gay/Straight Alliance. If there isn't one, consider starting one with a faculty sponsor. It would be better to get more comfortable with yourself so that you're prepared for some of the ridicule that may come your way. If this guy is both kind and gay, then perhaps he would join.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 00:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am telling you as i have told others..Be tru to you chosen path. Make small talk about a GAY and a girl on the cheer squad that are just friends but dig each other the most. {should I advise HIM not to get chumby with HER}.You will know by his response how he feels about HOMO CROSSING. Then you could just let NATURE take its course. For the ''Love of Mike keep your head''
Do Not let a depression push you to Come-out in highschool. without someone to share it with.Find a way to involve your self with other ?? genders Or FIRL Griends to ''Front' 'your show untill its clear to sail with the fishes. NOT IN H>S>
2006-12-16 01:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by henry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard, but for the sake of the queer community, you should just ask him. If you were straight, you would just ask out a girl without worrying if she is a lesbian. Unless you are afraid for your life, in which case you might want to reconsider your attraction towards this guy.
Be proud of who you are and open with everyone you are close to. You will be so much happier in the long run.
2006-12-16 00:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sad that you live in fear. Please don't do that.
Most people appreciate a direct question, but you can always watch and see who he hangs with, and if anyone around him talks about his being with certain girls. I don't want you to be made fun of, and I don't know this guy's personality, but I'm sure you can figure out a round about way to find out if there is any hope of your feelings being returned. Just calm down, and think about it, ok? Good luck.
2006-12-16 00:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Genius Squirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask him outright if he's straight or not. I would try to spend more time with him, casually - don't force anything on him. After a little while I think you'll be able to answer the question. If you spring it on him, more than likely his reponse will be negative or hostile.
2006-12-16 00:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by sullaboy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, then he probably is straight. Have a great holiday.
2006-12-16 00:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him out.
2006-12-18 21:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋