Have you ever had someone commit suicide without prior warning?

Question

One of the guys I worked with had his best friend kill himself by shooting himself with a handgun. He was completely caught by surprise because his friend gave no indication that anything was wrong (maybe he didn't listen well enough...who knows). Has anyone here ever had this happen. Was the reason ever found out, and what was the aftermath like (did their loved ones get over it?????) Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Yes and it is really hard. We had no warning...or so we thought. There was no note. Nothing. But, after everyone talked about what happened we realized there were subtle clues. My friend gave away some of the things that were important to her. She was unusually happy (this might sound weird) in the days leading up to her suicide...she was really calm and serene. It is not a matter about listening well enough. Anyone can miss the signs of suicide. What is important is that your friend have others he can talk to now in the aftermath so he doesn't feel guilty. Maybe professional counseling or a grief support group would be helpful for your friend. For others, familiarize yourself with the warning signs of suicide and be a supportive friend. If someone asks you to promise not to tell anyone they are thinking of suicide don't promise to keep quiet....scream your head off...your friend or loved one will get the help they need and hopefully chose a different route.
In the end...it was really hard and all I can say is be supportive of your friend. It takes time...be there to listen and offer support. It will get better. Lastly don't make your friend feel guilty. Whats done is done and guilt will only make them feel worse. I hope this helps. I included a link for suicide awareness for anyone who might be interested. Hope this is helpful for you.

Answer 2

I was a high school counselor and was working with a very disturbed student. He was always getting into trouble. He had threatened to kill two of his teachers and the principals had found satanic items in his locker. Instead of getting him the kind of help he really needed, they agreed with his Dad, and placed him into in-school suspension. He was suppose to stay there until the end of the semester. This was in January. What a long hard time that would have been, especially if you are very depressed. So, one day he showed up at school and went to his regular English class. He had brought a gun and killed himself in front of the whole class and the teacher.

It was headlines on the 6 p.m. news and on the 10 o'clock news they barely mentioned it. It was very hard and hurtful to the kids and the teacher that had to watch it. They had done nothing to deserve that. Now, they are very angry. As far as anyone else, it was quickly forgotten and their lives moved on. His family seemed almost relieved, because they had to live with his outbursts and threats for so long. He had been in a psychatric hospital, but evidently, he had extremely serious problems. I wish he had talked to me, so that I could have explained what the situation would probably be like afterwards. I believe some rock group wrote a song about him called "Jeremy". No one knew who he was, they just used the situation and the name. There is no glamour in suicide.

Answer 3

My husband had a co-worker kill himself. My husband found him in his house afterwards. Suicide is often like a jig-saw puzzle. There are pieces you dont understand go to gether intill after the fact. Of course then it's to late. Unfortunately YES,,this happens everyday - most people who have endured loved ones leaving this way did not see it coming. Sometimes afterwards you start to fit pieces together & find out "the" reason. It's never enought to accept what they chose to do. The after math is hard. You feel guilty that maybe you could have done something to stop it. You worry,, maybe you said or did or did not say something that could have made a differance in the choice they made. And you are angry,, they left because they hurt but look at how many people they hurt now.
You dont "get over it" but eventually you learn to live with it. Somehow, you have to. Life keeps going.

Answer 4

Usually there is no warning, except in hindsight. My sister committed suicide and I didn't see it coming at all, but when I looked back, the signs were definitely there. She was 16 and had lost a lot of weight and cried alot. I just thought it was normal adolescent stuff......never really thought much about it. It just takes time to heal. And no, loved ones don't really ever get over it.

Answer 5

Dats Kinda humorous, Cuz i tried Doing. I have kin complications Too, And Love existence complications, and that i Hate Myself. i tried OVERDOSING drugs, yet that did not artwork, because My Little Sister Stopped Me, beforehand It replaced into Too late. SO as we talk, I Made a catalogue Of the reason why I Shouldnt dedicate Suicide, and that i Had different PPlz help. you need to attempt That Too.

Answer 6

Yes, i have had that happen, and it is terrible. My cousin was doing drugs and was in a lot of trouble for a long time doing the wrong things and she wanted to stop and clean herself up, so he moved in with her grandparents. Everything seemed to be going well, she went back to school and she got clean. Then one night she didnt come home, and her grandparents went out looking for her. They were looking for quite some time and they finally checked at her moms house. After that her mom joined them in looking for her, and they all were going to go back o the grandparents house to see if she had gone there yet. Her mom was a few miles away when they got to the house, and there they saw her hanging in the tree in the front yard. After the initial shock wore off, her grandfather got her body down out of the tree before her mom got there and had to see it.

Answer 7

my younger brother had a heart condition and said he didn't care if he died because he had his own successful business and rewarded himself with drugs and pretty women. damned near worked himself to death before that. there was no autopsy put it is suspected he took some crack and sleep with pretty little young thing and he died on her. she admitted it. she saw he was dead so she paniced and drove five miles to her mother's house. a real cute little airhead. meanwhile she said he was shaking and complaining of pain at first then he was dead. he went the french way. he was only 45 and stood to multiply his holdings. certian he was bi-polar now that i have studied the subject. he hadn't threatend to kill himself, but it seems like suicide to me. he knew better,. a very intelligent guy. caught up in the 7-24 workacholic world. ended with a lot of stuff for a fellow coming from his (our) background. i miss him.

Answer 8

A friend of mine,did a couple of years ago now and it still saddens me to think that i saw him a week before and he seemed so confident and happy,well outwordlly anyway.
You don't get over the death of a loved one or close friend,i think you only learn to deal with it a little more each day.A young family member died of cancer a couple of weeks back and that was as heart renching as X's suicide.Its a pity we can't all just die of old age.

Answer 9

depression is the culprit, but if in the family herdity, more likely more sucides happen, in my family alone, has been over 10 sucides, from pill poping, hanging themselves, shooting themselves, and etc. Look for cutting behaviors too.
no loves ones never get over it, it just a waste of life taken, and not necessary!

Answer 10

Think about that question....
"Have I ever had" If I had then That there would be the warning, would it not?
But if you are asking do I know of anyone who has committed suicide then my answer would be NO!