i notice when a teenage girl is pregnant many people adore her but yet she hasnt achieve anything in life me and my friends finish college and no one seems to care but all the people we know who end up with a baby and dont have a diploma people worship them!
2006-12-15 16:02:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, I am a lot more proud of girls like you. I am going to say this, and I am sure some people will be mad. And, don't get me wrong, I like Fantasia's voice from American Idol, and she lives in my hometown, but I think it was total and absolute BULL that she could be labeled an "American Idol" for all the girls to look up to when she dropped out of school and had a baby. I don't know why people seem to think these girls have done something wonderful when in actuality they did something very stupid. I agree with you girl!
2006-12-15 16:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Garrett's Mommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's an issue of fairness. Maybe wisdom, but not fairness.
The fact that a teenage girl becomes pregnant doesn't necessarily have any bearing on what kind of person she is. She could have volunteered for charity after charity, gotten straight As, honored her parents, helped little old ladies across the street . . . all before she got pregnant. The only difference is that she was either unwise in the bedroom or unlucky in the bedroom.
How she handles the pregnancy may be worth admiration in itself. A friend of mind dropped out of high school and got a job. She had her child and took good care of him. Now, he's a teenager, she's married, and she has three kids with her new husband. She made it through something rough at a young age because of her unwise decisions, and she went on to have a happy life. I think that's admirable.
As for "worshipping," I've never seen anyone worship a teenage mom, so maybe I'm missing something, but that in itself is a pretty extreme reaction to anything most humans do.
2006-12-16 00:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really hard to compare career achievement to family achievements.
So when someone says that the pregnant teen doing great by not partying, not doing drugs, not out all night, what they are really implying is a message that in her state of mind, and in her position she is in, in fact doing pretty good. Compliments carry a women through tough times, because the negative feedback at the time of pregnancy can be damaging. It's like people go into a survival mode for young mothers to protect them with encouraging thoughts. But in reality people that go to college or working hard do not have a milestone results such as bringing life into this world. Keep in mind that the person who graduates without kids will get their reward without compliments (more pay, better home, bigger house) while the welfare teen mother will not get much. Fair is in the eyes of the educated.
2006-12-16 00:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes ..I get angered by this also..
I was a teenage mom who GRADUATED highschool when I was supposed to ( my baby was at my graduation ) ..went to college, and am going back in 2007..
I also have always worked and still do , full time..I never EVER got any welfare...
I am also married to my childs father..and it has been almost 13 years since this change in my life occured...
No one cared about the struggles and that we did the right thing and take care of our own..its been a tough road..
You only get attention when you put yourself out there to look like a "victim" of society...
and before anyone gets offensive, I also lived on my own since the age of 16..I had no parental support or income at all...
2006-12-16 00:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that girls that drop out school b/c of an unplanned pregnancy receive extra attention, but think about how much they need that attention and encouragement. A teenage mother spends her time caring for another human being above her own needs. A little encouragement goes a long way, but your life will be much different then that of any teenage mother. You will have a better chance of acheiving all of your dreams. Your encouragement is your progress, and your motivation is your future. You do not need approval from anyone. You are a bright young woman that is going places. Take pride in your own accomplishments, and do what you do for yourself not for anyone else. People that do things for the approval of others burn out long before ever accomplishing anything.
2006-12-16 01:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by babbling_brooke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple, because they don't have a diploma. They don't know any better. I'm sure that by the time you finish college and work the job your degree prepared you for, you will travel with people with similar values (ie: education) and will not longer mingle with people who think this.
Congrats on getting an education!
2006-12-16 00:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people - including adults - look at having a child as something that makes you into a grown-up... Which is crazy, all it means is you had sex and got knocked up. It takes a lot more than that to be a responsible, successful adult. You and your friends have a lot to be proud of, even if the people around you can't see it.
2006-12-16 00:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by Brad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think people just do it to be nice- anyhow good for you for not screwing up your life i wouldn't worry about people patting you on the back because i feel you will have much more respect one of these days when you are married & you & your spouse are expecting. ***but i'm glad that you are a responsible girl. i really can't stand seeing some teenager bringing a baby into the world i always feel so sorry for the baby i think it is cheated out of a "good upbringing"
2006-12-16 00:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by glam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
teenage moms dont get worshiped... they just get noticed as whores. which is not the truth at all. they just made mistakes... just like everyone else, except theirs are bigger mistakes. teenage mothers have it rough. they have to drop out of school just to care for their child. even though it sounds crazy, dropping out of school is the best thing to do in my opinion. she cant just shove her baby and expect whoever to take care of him/her. she can always go back to school when the child gets a little older, and continue getting her life back together. being a teenage mom is hard, harder than anything.... my best friend is one.
2006-12-16 01:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by =] 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, i do. it's not that they are getting "adored" and attention for having the baby, it's the fact that they have a baby at 13-16 and they're taking care if it, and that they are making it on their own!!!! you have to realize how much of a struggle it actually is. i myself am 13 and i don't have a kid, but my dad just had another kid,his 4th one, and he has had kids with 3 diff, women,&&don't criticize him, hepays child support and listens and cares for each &&every one of us!!!but my youngest brother[in order it's me, my brother who's 7, my brother's who's 6 and then the youngest 1 and a half]i take car eof him like he's my own,and people acually ask me if he's mine,& i proudly answer yes everytime. so, yeah they may seem slutish, but they have reasons to get attention,and they need all the attention and whatever they can get,they have a child and they are still a child.
2006-12-16 00:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Miissy_miranDUH 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋