well i had a girl and im studying in colleague, its hard for me to arrange my time between my girl and studies. so i think its better for me to focus on studying because i want to achieve succes. its all for my family that i love. is it worth for me to sacrifise it?
2006-12-15 15:59:28 · 11 answers · asked by akira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is prudent to prioritize your studies and career-oriented aspirations. If she is mature enough and loves you well, she should be obliging and understanding of your needs. Such loyalty would make her even more worthy--had she no qualms with your limited time and could endure the 'wait.'
If she loves you adequatedly, she would want the best for you and your 'self actualization' (see Abraham Maslow in wikipedia.org).
Thus, if everything is to work as it should, it is she that must be patient. You do what you must and develop your career. Were your places switched, wouldn't you want for her to achieve her goals?
If, however, she expects you to handicap your potential so that you can have more time together, then perhaps you need to reflect on the relationship as a whole.
Does she have a problem with you studying in college? Shouldn't she be encouraging your success?
2006-12-15 16:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by gaelicai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. You can do both. Take a longer view of your timeline---be that timeline one of study or family.
Ask yourself about family, first and foremost. Is "family" to you being married and having children? This is deeply important because you do not make any reference to your age. Hold your career decisions up to the proverbial light as it shines upon your age, your physical strength and your stamina. The questions to be asked and answered are distinctly different at, say, age 19, rather than 37 or 45.
Then ask yourself about your spirituality, your religion (as applicable) and social customs you find meaningful and vital.
As to "sacrificing" your feelings of love for someone for studies and career, have a close look at what the interpersonal dynamics are between you and that individual. In a truly working relationship, or marriage, scholastic and career excellence blend together because of the calmness and maturity of the parties involved. If there's "sacrificing" to be done, it may be in the area of scraping on money---always a truth in any relationship, notably within marriage. Not meaning to sound too simplistic here, but thrift make a different type of unexpected magic between people. And thrift, while important with money, might likewise be applied to time.
You asked a question with many, many levels for consideration.
2006-12-15 16:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Greg T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every decision we make in life has a consequence, every choice a cost. The cost of education and developing a career will often be deferring relationships, marriage and family. On the other hand, many choose the opposite and struggle financially later in life. However, don't be to quick to pass on a special someone. Nothing binds a couple together like struggling to acheive success together. If the right one comes along, don't be too quick to take a pass.
2006-12-15 16:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jim N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if she loves you she would want you to continue with your education. I would definitely continue with your schooling. If she can't understand that she doesn't love you all that much. Good luck and God Bless. Keep studying.
2006-12-15 16:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are your studies taking up so much of your time? you shouldn't need to sacrifice anyone/anything. but yes: don't neglect your studies -- ultimately, if you don't do what you need to do, you are going to be so unhappy that a relationship won't work out anyway.
2006-12-15 16:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by sally p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely do it. Your studies are what will set the course for the rest of your life. You can't let love distract you from that.
2006-12-15 16:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you dont have to totally eliminate your girl. See if she understands that you going to school will help you achieve your goals. If she doesnt want to be a part of that then sacrafice and choose school. But if she wants to stick it out with you, try to have both.
2006-12-15 16:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by EVY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If college is going to cause it to end. It's not there to sacrifice. It would end over something else some day, and you would always regret missing these college years. Let her go if she wants
2006-12-15 16:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely YES
2006-12-15 16:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything you might regret. for me personally, study always comes first.
2006-12-15 16:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by seeingstars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋