2006-12-15 15:53:36 · 9 answers · asked by sweet lu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
after 23 yrs . you guys know each other pretty well. you think he's trying to tell ya something. he's play acting about wanting to get back together. and you know it. time to dump his butt , honey, you deserve better, and no you're not to old to get out there and shake your groove thang. good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS AND MAY NEXT YEAR BE FILLED WITH NEW ADVENTURES,LOVE, AND HAPPINESS, CAUSE YOU DESERVE IT
2006-12-15 17:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by hummybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your post, I am not sure if that indiscretion took place years ago or recently. If you have had a good marriage up until now, it may be well worth it to try and put that in the past. You state that he is still "in touch." If he is still carrying out an affair with that person, then, if it were me, I would seperate and work toward a divorce. But without the details of your situation, I cannot really be specific.
2006-12-15 16:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any type of competition in a marriage is no good, and will not help u regain the trust u need to to save the marriage. to admit to something, is just that, admitting, if there is to be trust again, he must earn it, and be repentive, and atleast sorry. if he is still in touch with her, than u have to get out of this, as it will continue to bring u down. he needs to leave if he is still into this other woman. thats the reason i never stuck around and waited for my ex to come to his senses and come home, as i just didn't want to suffer anymore rejection or hurt. as once they choose someone else over us, i think it is all over anyway. works on our self worth. best to just get the pain over with, and move on than to keep suffering and keep wondering if he is still seeing her. does a number on people, makes them not want to trust anyone ever again. if he is still in touch than he is not really serious about making your marriage work.
2006-12-15 23:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filed for divorce at that point in my marriage, after which he agreed to totally cut off communication and agree to any other terms I would ask. Lots of people will tell you to dump him but if that's not what you want then think about it seriously. If he's willing to do what it takes without question or hesitation, consider not throwing your marriage away.
2006-12-15 16:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly I am predjudiced, because I am a male who has cheated. Nonetheless, do not assume that his failure to ho;d to your vows/understabding had anything to do with you. Chances are it only had to do with his own sense of no longer being attractive, desireable, wanted. Feelings rhat you have probably considered yourself. While his behavior is not, I repeat NOT acceptable, his feelings may be. Whether you wish to overlook his obvious insanity or not is totally up to you. Keep in mind, that unlike women, men do not get daily affirmations of their desirability, and because we are dense we need more concrete demonstrations, which in turn really mess up our teal lives.
2006-12-15 16:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Unknown Oscillator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER let that jerk come back home, and have an attorney take him to the cleaners, he needs a good cleaning (out)!
2006-12-15 16:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick that loser to the curb. Then go out and find yourself a real man.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-12-15 15:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he can't want to be back home very much if hes still in touch with her.tell himCUT ALL TIES OR FORGET IT!
2006-12-15 15:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is still cheating why even try...why give your heart again when you know he is going to hurt you again....I would say your strong without him_
2006-12-15 15:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋