This continued till I was 18, it was y a "family friend" that was 5 years older than me. Although my current husband has told him "off" it still bothers me.
2006-12-15 15:51:11 · 41 answers · asked by sweetpeasmum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
do not forgive until your husband kicks the sh*t out of him and puts him in the hospital.
2006-12-15 15:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Forgive, there are things in life that you can never forget, it becomes your memory and it will always be there. Like you can easily forget whats the last person you see today but you can never forget a death of a loved one. Forgive, however, works yet can be tough. If you forgive someone, you do your part, there is no burden on your shoulder, if its really hard for you, just repeat to yourself saying: It's the past, i cant change it no matter what, but now I am happy, so I dont need it to bother me. He knows what he did and one day he'll receive what he deserves.
2006-12-15 15:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Fallen&Broken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself to a counsellor without delay - your pastor, local health department, a rape crisis center - SOMEWHERE. And keep the lines of communication open with your husband. If it's still bothering you, it WILL eventually interfere with your marital relationship. Pray for the ability to forgive. You won't ever forget, but hopefully you may at least be able to put it to rest. Perhaps you need to confront the person who did this to you. And remember - it's not to late to go to the law about it. Unless I'm totally off base, there isn't a statute of limitations on child molesting. Above all, NEVER delude yourself into thinking that somehow it was your fault or that you "asked for it"...You were a CHILD. You are blameless.
2006-12-15 15:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely talk to a councilor about it and decide.
There are statues of limitations too so that may come into play.
You could probably destroy his life if you wanted to, so think it over carefully. Do you think he is into little girls or was it a mutual relationship? Of course it's still illegal...only you can decide, but apparently it's not a secret if your hubby has confronted him....your hubby has probably told others, and you know how that news travels, especially in a small town.
5 years is a long time that he abused you. You don't say how old you are now either...for all we know you could be 19 or 60 ?
2006-12-15 16:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, this will always bother you and you will not be able to forget it but you do need to move on. It's hard to forgive, and it took my father dying before I could forgive, but you need to find some way to put it behind you and thank God that you have a wonderful husband.
2006-12-15 15:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by elk312 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget I am afraid. And in due time you may forgive but it will be when your ready for it nobody else. You may want to look into a support group or some kind of counseling for you mixed feelings about it.
2006-12-15 15:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters, just always remember that in no way was what happened ever your fault.
Also, keep in mind, that you are in a group of many many people, far more than you can even imagine. If you ever have times when this past situation overwhelms you, do not feel ashamed to get some professional help.
I am so sorry this happened to you. You did not deserve this.
2006-12-15 15:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by maamu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that the only way you can get past something is to face it, acknowledge it, and then find a way to put it behind you. Trying to forget it will not work, it will continue to dwell in your subconcious. I commend you for taking action in doing this. Eventually, this mountain will turn into a mole hill, just put it behind you.
God Bless and good luck
2006-12-15 16:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was also a victim of sexual abuse at a early age, there is no way to forget this!! it has messed up my life, im a lil overweight (to make myself unattractive in my eyes) it took me and my husband 2 years to get pg and i am way over protective of my daughter, she is gonna hate it when she realizes that she wont be able to do a lot of things in my fear that it will hapen to her. i get scared sometimes when im home by myself with my 2 yr old. but i have learned not to be depressed about it, i talk about it freely... you will never forget this and no one should ever ask u to, but its your decision if you want to forgive him, you obviously cant trust him, or feel comfortable around him.....
2006-12-15 16:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by candyas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God can forgive us for some of the terrible things that we have done, we have to. I know that sounds easier said than done but you have to pray and ask God to bless you with the proper attitude to deal with this. Don't let that situation torment you for the rest of your life. Forgive but never forget.
2006-12-15 15:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO they deserve what they get that sh** should have never happened it could have hurt you for life it was wrong and you should never forgive and how are you suppose to forget something like that i would never want to see that mother Fu**er again he should be in jail for the rest of his life where he will get against his will. I am sorry for what happened to you hope the rest of your life is better
2006-12-15 15:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by whitegirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋