I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-15 15:31:26 · 15 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You make me think of my son who is now 11 years old. He is a hugger also. I think that is a very good quality in a young man. Talk to her, let her know how you feel and that you would like a hug or hold her hand when she is ready. Let her know you do not want to push her into anything she is uncomfortable with and that you will wait until she is ready. Let her know that you are an affectionate person and that makes you feel closer to someone. Tell her that you would be happy with holding pinkies when she is ready. You sound like you have a very good head on your shoulders and any girl would be lucky to end up with you. You have heart and that matters most in a relationship. Best wishes to you and your friend.
2006-12-15 15:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about your feelings. Maybe she is just a "anti touch" person around a lot of people and would feel better about hugs when you grow closer and away from everyone else. I was a little shy in high school and I really didn't like open affection. I felt much better about it away from school, when thing are more intimate and private.
2006-12-15 23:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you can do is to socialize a lot less to let her feel more comfortable and the fact that she dont to be hug or hold hands is her view i appreciat it that you respect that but if you want to grow grow closer in the relationship please please her and i am talking about sex just try to feel each other love when ever you are beside each other and not beside each other
2006-12-15 23:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by shanty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a hug is not too much to ask to ascertain the feelings that you mutually share. It is not threatening and is very endearing. I think you need to talk with her more, get to know her even better than you do.
2006-12-15 23:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well respect her choices, when u would like to hold hands , kiss etc. Ask her if you may kiss her? If she says no -Which I doubt she will -back off.My husband was never touchy but now he surpries me Why because I am his wife and he feel safe with me - he never wanted to kiss hold hands etc in public untill we got married maybe she is this way .
2006-12-15 23:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you havent asked her out?
if you havent maybe if you do she'll be more free with hugs and hoilding hands.
she may not want to until she goes out qith you becdaus eshe doesnt want to get hurt for whatever reason.
when you ask her out it will sort of set her free and she will be able to hung hold hands or kiss without that feeling in the back of her mind "what if it doesnt work out"
2006-12-15 23:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want your relationship to grow closer u have to become more romantic take her out to a fancy resurtant and tell her how much u like her plz no touching.
2006-12-15 23:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by amazingchick123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a sweet young man. just talk to her. it's the only way you'll know what she like & what she dosn't like. i must prase you on the wating untill your married. don't hear that from to many guys! she's got a great guy & she'll love that you will respect her wishes! lot of luck . :)
2006-12-15 23:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a flower and let her know you are ready for the next step maybe a promise ring
lots of luck happy holidays
2006-12-15 23:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is just try and be friends with her, and if your relationship grows closer, then it does, if not, then it isnt meant to be. you cant force something that isnt meant. good luck and merry christmas
2006-12-15 23:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋