What are signs hes having an affair? How can i tell?
2006-12-15 15:11:48 · 13 answers · asked by sexy mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him outright. Evaluate your relationship. Is there trouble in your relationship? Try to work on those things and the truth will eventually come out. If you have to go to extreme measures to find out, such as having him followed, reading his emails, etc., then chances are you are fighting a losing battle. I don't believe in fighting to keep someone. If they don't want to be with you, then move on. You could waste years of your life trying to make it work when you could have found someone a whole lot healthier to be with in that time.
My advice is to work on the relationship and go where that leads. I am NOT saying that if he is cheating on you then you should leave him. I am saying if he does not want to be with YOU then you should leave him. If he is cheating and regrets it, the affair only being sexual, and has weighed it and decides he wants to hold on to you, then try to work it out if you still want to be with him. (Really bad sentence structure, but I am really tired!)
I know you asked for the signs, and I did not answer your question, but I had to throw my opinion in. GodBlessYou.
2006-12-15 15:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Truckin' for a Livin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.ask.com and type in the question "What are the signs of a cheating spouse". You will get all kinds of links and can go from there. They will even give you like a top ten list of ways to know someone is cheating. Good luck and I hope you find that there was no cheating involved. You could try to ask him but it doesn't mean that he will tell the truth.
2006-12-15 15:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful about being too mistrustful. My STBX printed out one of those 'how to tell if your spouse is cheating" and started spying on me. I was already upset with his controlling manner, and was pushing away from him because I was angry and contemplating divorce. He violated my privacy, questioned my integrity, and drove me away. Too bad I had nothing to hide. A year of marriage therapy couldn't get us in a more trustful relationship. Respect and trust are needed in a healthy relationship. Maybe you could just tell him you are feeling insecure in the relationship and would like to go to marriage counseling. If not, think about going alone. It really helped me sort out my feelings.
2006-12-15 16:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my ex, these were the signs: Sudden obsession with his appearence, wearing nicer clothes, working out more, wearing cologne. He also was "working" a lot more. He would be unreachable via his cell phone. He would get a lot of "work calls". He suddenly had a lot of unexplained possessions..a new watch, new cologne, etc. He also went from beinf a "tidy whitey" boy to a boxer boy, after years of telling me he HATED boxers. Also, he was trying new maneuvers in bed. Lastlym he became more argumentative with me.
2006-12-16 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no clear cut signs, Any one can say this or that is a sign. The only sure way to know is to see it with your own eyes, and even that can be mistaken. Be careful
2006-12-15 15:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by loveamouse7767 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u think that? Has he done something to make u think that or are u fishing? A man wants to come home to The Love of His Life, not some woman that he lives with who constantly accuses him of doing things he is not. He really doesn't want to come home at all then! Let him know you love and cherish him, support him but most of all LOVE HIM UNCONDITIONALLY!!!!!
2006-12-15 16:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
disinterest and stories with a lot of detail......also remember what a person talks about on a specific day (ie what they did when they went out) then ask a week later in passing because you thought what they did was "interesting" or something you would want to do. If they can't remember what they told you...then it is a lie...and watch out....
2006-12-15 15:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tsafr01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will say he has to work longer hours, be more willing to have sex, oe none at all. He would have strange calls, or a bigger interest in the internet. He may have clothes missing. He could be more tempermental with you.
2006-12-15 15:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Check his cell phone
Check the car and see if there is anything there that shouldnt be
Check his wallet or his clothes when he comes home_
2006-12-15 15:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about spending the energy on watering what you have at home and u wont have to worry about him
MAKE HIM WANT U!!!!
DONT WALK AROUND THE HOUSE IN SWEATS OR A HOUSE DRESS...WERE IS THE SEXY FREAK AT?
* Foreplay, Foreplay Foreplay
*Tease him at work so he cant wait to get home to u.....leave him Hey Big Daddy voicemail..." Hey Big Daddy, your Baby Girl needs u to tuck her in tonight......boast his ego...they love that
*U find alot of nice outfits on ebay....nurse, frech maid...than look at the itens they r selling too.
*When u go out together when he's driving get me excited...rub on him or even pull it out and just please him while he driving.
*Having sex on the floor is awsome...especially doggie style...u are are really leveled.
*Perform oral sex on him for atleast 30min.....dont even have intercourse...Let him know u all about pleasing him
*Wake him up at 2am with oral sex.
*Wear nothing but a tank top or a nice shirt that stops right at your butt around the house all the time...not the same one everyday.....believe me he will take a peep when u cooking or cleaning
*Rub up on him or back into him at the store.
*Go to the Dept Store once a month and get a Free Makeover...come home cook, serve him and watch a movie with nothing on but a shirt so u can easily make out on the couch.
******Make Soft Voices in His Ear when you all have sex*********
If u dont now, start slowing dont be unbelievable.....
MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE THE MAN AT ALL TIMES AND THAT HE IS NEEDED....Plus make sure u thank him for everything he does for the family
2006-12-15 15:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by aflyladybug4u 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋