We have only been dating a little over a month and the condom might have broke what should we do about the thought of her possibly being pregenet
2006-12-15 14:53:20 · 43 answers · asked by bryan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to talk to her and decide what to do if she is pregnant. You should be there for her and supportive.
2006-12-15 14:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by JenGen 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If all you're going on is that the condom broke, you're probably safe (statistically speaking), but you never know, so you should err on the side of caution.
If it's within the first day or two, she should take the morning after pill. The sooner the better as its effectiveness declines over time. Make an appointment with a clinic such as planned parenthood immediately. Note: This pill may make her feel a bit ill.
After that, when it's first possible to test, she should be tested to see if she actually is pregnant. You want to know as soon as possible.
If it turns out that she's not pregnant, use this experience as a lesson that you should probably conisder birth control and be as careful as possible. The difference between having a baby after you're out of college with a career and financially secure and having a baby before you are secure is obviously huge, in terms of quality of life for both you and your children.
If she is then you and your girlfriend have a huge and extremely difficult decision about what to do. But because this situation is so overwhelming, I think that it's best to know where you stand first (whether she is in fact pregnant) before trying to figure out 10 steps down the road.
2006-12-15 15:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by James W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long ago did this happen because if it was less then 72 hours ago (and you don't want to be pregnant) u can get the morning after pill . its a high dose of hormones like the ones in birth control pills. you don't need a RX or anything just an ID (u have to be over 18). If its been more then 72 hours you have to wait and see if she pregnant then you have to decide wether you want to have the baby and raise it, have an abortion or give it up for adoption. All 3 options are personally decisions that YOU and HER need to decide on.
In a perfect world the two of you would decide what to do together....but since its not, she has the final say in what to do. NOBODY and i mean NOBODY can tell her she has to do anything....not her family, your family, friends or even u.
The best thing U can do is support her and stand by her in whatever she decides. If she decides to keep the baby please be a man and take responsibly! she didn't get pregnant by herself so don't make her raise the child alone!
GOOD LUCK TO both OF YOU! HOPE THIS HELPED!
2006-12-15 15:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by hotgurl1805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to find out if she is really pregnant. You are best off to go see a doctor, after she's missed her period.
If the test is positive, then you have to make a few choices - keep the baby, abort the baby, or put the baby up for adoption.
The decision should be made between both of you, & don't for get you will have to tell your parents @ some point too.
There is also the responsability to this child you could have - education, clothes, food, ect ....
Good Luck ....
2006-12-15 15:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Better start talking to each other. You have not been together that long. Be supportive of her and get her to investigate how she feels about this while it is early. How old is she? Is it time for a child in your lives now? Get some help for yourselves with this. If it turns out that she is not pregnant, try to get a more dependable birth control method than condoms that break.
2006-12-15 15:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My now husband was 17 when our 1st child was born,he went to college and now makes enough for me to stay at home with our 2 boys. we had been together for almost 2 years when I had him and we weren't ready we planned to get married, have children etc, but not when I got pregnact I was on birth control and didn't miss any( I got preg twic this way- 2 diff birth controls)however he didn't use a condom. No doubt if she thinks she many be pregnact she probably is just support her, take care of ur child and rememeber children can bring the best out in us.
2006-12-15 15:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is have her take a pregnancy test and go from there. Not much else you can do. If baby is there.. Its there. Just if she is pregnant she needs to get a hold of a doc to confirm it and if she plans on keeping it she needs to start taking Vitamins and taking care of her body right away. Support her, Being pregnant (especially for the first time) is scary for a girl.. and it doesnt help if the father to be is hounding her over it.
2006-12-15 15:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by alysza81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and accept the fact that you could possibly be a father of another human being in 9 months.
2006-12-15 15:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it doesn't matter how long you've been together or how it happened. You both need to take responsibility for what has happened. Stay with her through this time and support her through it all. Talk to her about what choices you'll both make, where you both are in life, and if you're both ready to raise a child and settle down together. Plan out your life together.
2006-12-15 15:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question on this site . . . you're not emotionally responsible enough to be having sex. Anyone can have sex...does not make that person heart intelligence enough to have sex. In answer to your specific question . . . take the wonder out of "is she pregnant or not"...when the timing is right have a pregnancy test done. If positive for pregnancy...you have personal choices to make and all the world knows what those choices are. Regardless...the conversations and decisions will begin. As great as sex is . . . it does have some mind and heart responsibility that goes along with yet many (many, many, many...) overlook that.
2006-12-15 15:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know these days a month seems like long enough to be intimate, but we must remember ... sex can VERY EASILY lead to pregancy, which means a child, which means 18 years of responsibility. So, why not take a little longer to get to know someone- they could be the mother or father of your child.
Now you just have to be supportive. If she wants to keep him/her, you have a child and possibly child support to pay. Good luck
2006-12-15 15:00:34 · answer #11 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋