Abort this one or keep this baby also?

Question

I am possible pregnant with my second. I already have a infant daughter and she is a handful of joy yet responsibility as it is. Should I get an abortion or have the baby and keep him/her?

I use to be against abortion but now I'm pro-choice if it isn't partial birth abortion.

Also how expensive are abortions and can they possibly be done confidential?

I'm thinking about adoption. But should I also keep this child?

For the dumb butt who told me to drop out I'm waiting till my daughter is a few months old and putting her in daycare while I'm in school. And I'm working my butt off doing chores for family,babysitting and running errands for people!!

We had sex before that incident occurd!!

Answer 1

Honey, if your 13 and already have a baby, why aren't you on birth control?? First of all, if you need to ask the people on yahoo if you should have an abortion or not, then you obviously not ready for a baby, much less 2. I'm not telling you to have an abortion! But would you consider adoption? What about the father? Is he involved? You have to think long term. I think it's great that at your young age you opted for life rather than having an abortion. But what kind of life are you going to give these children without even a high school diploma ( or grammar school) Is your mother helping you? And how would she feel about this? I think that who ever is helping you take care of your infant is the one you should be talking you about this. There are things like open adoption where you could still be part of your baby's life. I will pray for you that your not pregnant... and if your not, sweetie, please get on birth control. It's not my job to tell you if you should be having sex at such a young age, but I will tell you that raising a child is not an easy task, especially when your still a child yourself.
Good luck honey, I hope it all works out for you.

PS if you are really considering an abortion, please visit this site, it will give you details of the process www.mttu.com/abort-pics/ or www.priestsforlife.org/images VERY GRAPHIC AND DISTURBING!

Answer 2

I have been keeping up with all of your questions. And really - you need help. I don't know if all this is true or not. But you really do need to grow up.
If you are pregant, give it up for adoption. You apparently don't know how to be a mother. You got on here to ask what you should do after seeing a man molesting your daughter. That right there is a clear sign that you have no idea what you are doing!
And also give the little girl up for adoption also. Someone like you doesn't need kids. You're not old enough to know what you are doing much less know what is going on with your child.
Like everyone else has said. Keep you legs closed!
Give those babies a chance of a good life and let a family who deserves them and will love and take care of them, have them.

Answer 3

I would put the baby up for adoption. If you are really 13 and have a baby already, you need to think about what your future will be like. You still legally have to be in school for 3 more years. A friend of mine had her 1st of 3 kids when she was 14, the 2nd one when she was 16, and her third when she was 18. She is now 22 years old and on welfare because she couldn't learn to "keep it in her pants". No one should be calling you a whore or anything like that, after all 13 year olds are going through puberty, and can become curious. (And for those of you who read this and are thinking I was having sex at this age you're wrong. I didn't start until I was almost 21.) My advise to you would be to talk to your doctor about some options that you and your unborn baby have, and please, if only for your sake, get checked out for STD's and on some kind of protection method. Most doctors will not put a 13 year old on birth control because of the hormone levels. But as far as abortion, you'll regret it. I worked with a lady that had one. It made her sterile and prevented her from having a baby when she got married and was ready to have a family. You'd probably regret it after some time too. If you have any questions, feel free to email me.

Answer 4

Have the baby and raise it.

Lets face the facts here. Your sexually active. That's how you make babies. Your a mother at 13 already and your having your second baby.

School is not your priority, so drop out and take care of the lives you have created. When you hit 18, your child will be 5. When your 21, your child will be 8. When your 26, your child will be 13, and if it is a daughter, she can give u a grandchild just like how you gave your folks. A grandmother at 26. How darling.

Answer 5

Sounds like you first need to answer...CAN you care for the two kids responsibly? Support wise I mean. Kids although very fullfilling are a financial burden...can you care for more than one.
And I mean YOU, not your parents or grandparents.

I went through hell to get pregnant (long story) and I've never been for abortion, but in all seriousness, YOU need to make a sound choice and stop messing around without some protection if you are not able to step up to the plate. In many situations the child would be better off having not been brought up in a world where it only suffers as it is not cared for the way it deserves.

Whatever your decision, your next should be WHY are you even messing around where you CAN get pregnant when you already made that mistake once at such a young age.

Answer 6

Hi,
I hope that you will ignore all of the negative and mean spirited remarks to your question. First you need to get a pregnancy test. I can imagine you are anxious and probably a little scared. Talk to your parents or if that is not an option please talk to a trusted adult like a teacher or guidance counselor. I am pro-life but I am not going to tell you what is right or wrong for you to do. Only you can make that choice.
You are only 13 and if you want an abortion you may not be able to have one without telling a parent or legal guardian. The laws vary in each state. In some states in you feel you can not talk to a parent or guardian you have to talk to a family court judge so they can determine whether you are emotionally mature to make the decison to have an abortion because you are still a minor.
You could chose adoption if you have no other alternatives. There are a thousands and thousands of couples who are waiting to adopt an infant every year in the US. If this is what you chose make sure you go with a reputable agency who will guide you in the process. You may be able to chose and adoption in which you are allowed to pick the adoptive parents and have limited contact with them while you child grows up. There are closed adoptions (you will not know who adopted your child as the record will be sealed by the court); partial open adoptions like the first method I described; and open adoptions where you might be able to communicate with your child while they are growing up and exchange letters or pictures.
I am a social worker and might I suggest that if you chose adoption you write a letter to your baby and tell them that you loved them very much but felt you could not care for them and wanted to give them the best possible chances in life. It may answer a lot of questions for the child in the future.
As for abortions, I do not know how much they cost. If you want this to confidential in nature you will more than likely have to pay cash. If you use insurance that is provided for you by a family member (like your mom or dad) they will get the bills from the insurance company or clinic you went to. If you chose this route make sure you go to a clinic that is clean and safe so you will avoid complications.
Lastly, if you think you have the support to love and care for your child if you are indeed pregnant and chose to keep the baby, best wishes to you.
But, you are only 13. Please stop having sex now. It may be enjoyable for you but you are so young and have plenty of time to have more babies. If you can't do this consider using protection or being on the pill. You are just a kid. Enjoy being one. Your teen years go by way to fast.
Again, you need to get tested! Now! It is the only way you are going to know for sure. Best wishes, A Social Worker in Minnesota

PS If you need to talk to someone please email me at [e-mail] I don't know what I can do to help you in your situation but I can point you towards resources or just be a friendly ear who will listen.

Answer 7

well, i am pro choice, because unfortunately it is the womans body to do as she pleases. however, you did lay there, being 13 years old, oohing and aahing and GETTING the baby. i feel if you are responsible enough to be having sex, you should be adult enough to deal with what you have created and take care of the baby. And why are you having sex at 13, i would have gotten on birth control or something at least after the first kid. seriously, learn from your previous experiences, that is what ADULTS do.

Answer 8

13 years old is extremely young to have two kids. If you are struggling with one now, chances are life is going to be very very tough with two small children. I would seriously give some thought to putting the baby up for adoption (if you are pregnant).

We are hoping to adopt and would love to help out a young woman in a tough situation. http://ouradoptionplan.com

Best of luck to you-if you are lucky, you may not even be PG

Answer 9

I just can not figure out if you are 13 and have already had a child why your parents are allowing you to roam...really! Aside from that yes give the baby up for adoption if you are 13 there is no way you are taking care of your 1 child, let alone 2 children & have your tubes tied in the process.

Answer 10

Reading your posting makes me so angry. I've never written a harsh posting, but here it goes...WHERE are your parents? What do they say?... Don't they or you have any common sense? You say your a "proud 13-year-old mother", no honey, you're a "irresponsible child". I feel so sorry for the child you have now. Being a good, proud parent means setting good examples for your own kids, despite your own mistakes. Keep your legs closed, growth up, be a responsible parent and surround yourself with some responsible role models... If you are pregnant, consider adoption. Don't kill your baby because YOU made a stupid mistake. I'm so angry, I can't even type anymore......